Hoping someone can help,
our daughter asked us to look after our 10 yr old,grandaughter and 3yr old grandson,10 weeks ago, she signed a scrap of paper,to say we had parental responsibility (we know now its not official)
Our grandaughter was on the CIN register before she came to us,after initially being on neglected child register, mum drinks too much,as well as drug abuse, dad does the same,
Our grandchildren were meant to come to us for 18 months, so our daughter could deal with her issues,and move somewhere, so her now ex cant find her, everything was okay, mum was happy with the arrangement,but now mum is starting to struggle on her benefits,as we have child benefit , So shes talked to her friends about getting our grandchildren back,as she can no longer afford the alcohol etc,
Social services have been useless,they said its a private arrangement so dont get involved,although children are still on the children in need register,as nothing official has been done, I know I cant apply for a residence order yet,as they havent been with us long enough,
Our grandaughter is happy in her new school,and grandson is settled in nursery,they had to go to new ones as we live 25 miles from their mum,
We were told by social services,if she turns up drunk,we can say,they wont be safe with her,if she comes sober but with the police,we can just say we dont think they will be safe with her,and she,d have to then apply to social services/courts to get them back,but with social services lack of interest,not sure we trust them,
I think its disgusting that she wasnt bothered about them until she struggled financially, neither her or their dad have phoned since we had them, daughter came and saw them at a childrens centre once, we had to organise it, as it was a private arrangement,between us and daughter,
To be honest it feels like social services are relieved theyre with us now,and dont seem bothered,even though grandkids are still on children in need register,incase they did go back to mum,we,ve had no help financial or otherwise, the private arrangement absolves them of any responsibilty,
we know grandaughter was left at home alone for about 3 hours on a couple of occasions, social services are also aware of it,
My question after my ramble is, can we actually do anything else to stop her taking grandkids back, when we know its for drug and alcohol money,
We really are worried about their welfare if they have to go back home,
Can anyone help please
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