I wasn't on here then; perhaps people use it for a while but can't find what they are looking for so drift away, or sort things out, or become so busy they don't have time.
It is so kind of you to worry so much, Dragonfly and I often worry about people and their problems, but a friend pointed out to me that unless you can actually change things for them, you can advise only and can't worry if they choose not to take that advice. I have noticed that people often offload all their problems, leave you fretting then next time you see them they say 'oh, everything's fine now, didn't I tell you?'. So I try not to take people's problems on board so much now.
I hope Paula is OK though, and sorts out the best way forward for herself.