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update & advice please :)

(9 Posts)
beverley6 Tue 29-Jul-14 00:28:25

still cant get hold of sw but am trying every day!
last week my husband and i decided we wanted to give our relationship another go, so he has now moved back in. when ss did the paper work for the order it said that if i was to get back with hubby then further assessment was needed, at that time there were no plans for that to happen, but obviously we have now decided th try.
where do i stand? im more than happy to tell sw, is that the right thing to do? etc!

nightowl Wed 16-Jul-14 09:48:29

That's very bad beverley the local authority has a duty to offer ongoing support as your granddaughter was a looked after child (if I remember correctly) so they are in breach of their responsibilities not to provide a support plan. Not good enough to say sw 'will stick around for a bit'. Do get on to them and don't let them get away with it.

beverley6 Wed 16-Jul-14 09:45:33

sw's day off am im away tomorrow until next wednesday so it will have to wait until then!

beverley6 Wed 16-Jul-14 08:33:51

i didnt receive a support plan, just details of moneys to be paid, how/when, and a copy of visits where/when/.
sw said she would stick around for a bit, and that there is a guardianship team etc thats it.
myself and baby's dad have never got on due to his controlling nature, but i agreed to go out rather than the contact centre because of the weather being nice etc.
i in no way want to stop or reduce his contact with his daughter, and did ask for the first year to be supervised to build trust up on both sides.
im going to ring sw this morning, if i can get hold of her! to see where the land lies.

nightowl Wed 16-Jul-14 00:34:13

beverley you should have been provided with an SGO support plan at the time the Order was made, and this should include all the provisions for future support to be provided by the local authority. I think you need to get back to the SW to clarify contact arrangements, particularly if the SW and guardian were suggesting arrangements that were different from those specified in a Contact Order. The local authority still has a responsibility towards your grandchild even though she is no longer looked after.

grannyactivist Wed 16-Jul-14 00:12:15

If the SW/Guardian ad litem makes new representations to the court then it's possible that the Court Order may be changed. In the meantime I suggest that any further meetings dad has with the baby are at the contact centre and are supervised by the support worker. The latter is particularly important because how dad behaves at these visits will most likely be monitored and form at least part of the basis of any new representations to the court.

Galen Tue 15-Jul-14 23:47:40

Not au fait with legalities, but I would assume as court order is for 3 hours you need another judicial order to alter it. A SW cannot override a judicial order.
I'm sure one of the ex social workers can give you further advice.

Nelliemoser Tue 15-Jul-14 23:44:16

beverley6 I would seek futher advice . If you have an SGO you need to consider what you feel is in the best interests of the child, and as the main carer your wellbeing is part of that .

beverley6 Tue 15-Jul-14 22:49:21

as many of you know i am now the special guardian of my beautiful grand daughter smile
she has been here nearly 4 months now and is an absolutely joy, although im knackered lol!
she is a very contented baby and loves us all here, which im so pleased about, even my teenage boys (14 & 15) argue over who looks after her while i get in the bath! joy!

now for the advice.....
in the sgo order, the parents contact is separate as they are on and off like a light switch. so mum, my daughters contact is managed by me, as and when i feel is appropriate. dads contact is once every 2 months for 3 hours. after the order was granted, the sw and guardian decided that 3 hrs was too long and that we were to stick to an hour and a half every 2 months. obviously dad isnt happy with this. at his first contact it was decided that we wouldnt use the contact centre, he wanted to take her swimming and as long as his support worker was present that was fine. we spent the time in my local park, baby was apprehensive to start with, but after about 40 minutes she warmed to him and was quite receptive. we didnt end up going swimming by the way because all his money went on dope!!!!

a couple of weeks after sw rung me to see how it went and to ask if we need the contact centre from now on, i said im not sure but im not happy to supervise contact on my own at the minute because of all the messages & hassles i am getting most days from dad. she said she would speak to his support worker to see if she could do the next 4 contacts at least.
ive not heard from her since, so assumed that it was going to be the same as last time.
the messages hehas been sending have been saying that the judge said his contact was for 3 hours and that he was going to get it etc.

i had a message from my daughter tonight saying that sw is going to ring me to confirm that dads contact is for 3 hrs.

now im assuming hes been pressuring her and that as the order says 3 hours its got to be stuck to.

im not happy top spend 3 hrs with this 'man' at all, even with his support worker there, so am i within my rights to ask for the contact centre? more importantly, baby isnt going to be happy to be away from me for 3 hrs shes going through her 'clingy' stage and always wants me!

im kind of stuck on what i should say to sw? and what im within my rights to do?