Thank you for the helpfulreplies.
I really do not want to get into a debate about who is more worthy, whether those who have children, and are single working parents and have worked and paid NI are more entitled than those who were/ are not etc.
I am really a "cusp child" in this. The changes in the pension system have caught me three or four times in the last few years.
It is not about feeling entitled even though I did not worketc.
Like my mother and my grandmother and all my aunts and even my husbands sisters (and I think many mature women here - I mean those in their 70's, coming up 80 perhaps?) I grew up expecting to go to work for a few years, get married and have a family. The expectation too then was that you would/could be a "housewife" (or as the Americans call it a "homemaker") and there was no expectation either that the role had to include having children necessarily.
A man went to work and he paid his NI and the pension ( right up until 2013 in fact) included a "married couples state pension" which I think wasaround £66 a week extra and based on a man being married to a woman and therewere no rules about whether a woman had children or anything else. A wife claimed from her husband and that was the way it was. If she had worked and paid in her own NI,then I believe these discounted when the joint income statepension wascalculated anyway. ( My aunt was amarried woman who elected to pay full stamp and worked all her life and had no children and this is what happened to her).
That was what I was told by the ( now) DWPand it was the case until very recently.
Now it seems that what I did back in the 1970's /80's ( as a young woman who got married and stayed home because my husband said he could afford to keep me and it was better for me anyway, for reasons I will not go into) is to be judged by a different set of standards and I am now seen as a scrounger who should " not expect" to get out anything because I did not pay in.Yeah. Ok. Enough said.
I do not wish to sound aggressive but frankly that hurts. I did what lots of people did. Many are now covered by child rearing, I am not (I lost three babies in that time and I was not well. I did not sign on at any job centre, as back then you did not do such a thing anyway). I stayed home and my husband earned enough for both of us.
Working at that time was for a married woman a " choice", it was not a requirement. It seems too many have forgotten that in the charge to judge others.
The matter is simply, the rules have changed. Please can we not be judgemental about those like me ( and I am sure I am not alone) who were homemakers and later did parttime jobs and who do not feel entitled but were promised certain things ( like my husband contributions would be seen as covering me) and now those have been broken.
I cannot make back payments. I canot changedecisions and things that happened to me back nearly 40 years ago. I cannot change that no one wantsto employ me nowas I am too old. I do though, because of a broken promise need to make a different provision in terms of NI contributions, yet that is also proving difficult.
My husband didnt have a fancy job, just one that paid reasonably and I kept a good table, saved well , was frugal, and we did not indulge in lifestyle extravegances ( like holidays and smoking and drinking etc). I didnt make these rules. I didnt change them and I did not expect them to be changed like this.
I do not claim benefits and never have. All I am looking for is to pay my NI contributions at a rate I can afford or to get them paid so I fit into the rules. ( Were I 20 now, I could like so many younger people today, sit around on benefits, even without children, and have all my NI contributions paid and geta state pension out of credits because I signed on. But that was not the option in my youth).
Am I really so dispicable as to be told off for just wanting to find a way to pay my last 5 years of NI contributions? I am even willing to pay for them myself if the option were affordable. I am not scrounging.
Sorry , I am really hurt by some comments. Thank you to those who have tried to help.