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Death of Former Husband

(27 Posts)
whitewave Wed 13-May-15 10:18:40

I thought that funerals were public ceremonies and anyone can attend - but perhaps I am wrong.

If there is a will than that should make clear what is what - but for personal effects, than there may be a letter of - not sure what it is called - but widow may not let anyone see it if it is in her possession.

glammanana Wed 13-May-15 10:15:11

My first OH died last night and whilst we where not over friendly he is still in all respects the father of my eldest child even though he walked out when she was 18mths old,DD has had a spairodic relationship with him and his wife mainly because the wife was unable to have children of her own and resented the presence of DD.
DD has been told by my DGS1 that she is not welcome at the service and to keep away but she wants to go and I have promised to support her,we could slip in at the back then slip away again I'm sure.
More importantly DD wanted something belonging to her Father to pass on to her sons but this will cause the wife upset I'm sure,I ofcourse understand
this lady will be very upset at the moment and will be for sometime to come
I would hate for my DGSs to miss out on what could be their GFs last wishes as I'm sure he would have left them something,any thoughts would be gladly received. x glamma x