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OlgaViolet Sat 12-Aug-17 03:34:07

Hello,

Right now I have my great grandchild in my care which I am in the process of fostering as my grand daughter would rather go out with her mates every night and get drunk, she is spending her baby's money on alcohol and not on her daughter.

I found out that social services are speaking behind my back saying I am too old to foster my great grandchild, I am 63, are they allowed to do that behind my back? Would it be best if I confront them? I've had the baby in my care for 4 months now, surely if they thought I wasnt suitable they would've not placed the baby in my care?

Is there anyone who is in their 60s fostering their grandchild or their great grandchild? I just want to find evidence of this, because I find it unfair and possibly ageist to even suggest I am too old.

The baby is healthy she is happy, and has loads of Cwtches from my youngest son and only daughter, I dunno where o turn, or what to do, I may end up getting a scolistor involved as social services are taking my grandchild to court, I just want to be able to fight, because losing my great grandchild will be like losing my son (he passed in 93) again.

I didnt include names as I want to protect the identity of all parties involved.

Sorry if this is long and in the wrong place, thanks for reading

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Starlady Sat 12-Aug-17 05:42:10

Welcome Olga!

How sad that your gd isn't interested in taking care of her own child! Sounds like she may have a drinking problem, of course, which probably messes up her thinking. And I suppose the father is no use either, am I right?

Imo, you're a very "young" ggm (I guess gd is a very young mum) at 63. And you sound very enthusiastic about being there for this child. I don't see any reason why you can't carry on with caring for her as you are.

How did you "find out" that social services was questioning your ability to foster your ggc? Did you hear it from a reliable source?

If you think they might take baby from you, is there anyone else in the family - younger, I suppose - who might be willing and able to step up? A gp? Aunt? Anyone? That way baby would still be with a family member.

Anyhow, if you feel baby is better off with you fostering her, but ss doesn't agree, then yes, you might have to get a solicitor involved. I hope it doesn't come to that, but I think you should start looking into it now, jic.

Whoever fosters the child, ss might want to reunite her with her mum (your gd), eventually. If you're the foster mum, you'll need to be prepared for that.

Praying for you and ggc!

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M0nica Sat 12-Aug-17 15:30:35

Speak to the Citizen's Advice Bureau (CAB). There will be one locally. They will be able to advise you on your rights.

I suspect a key question will be your health.

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