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M0nica Thu 17-Aug-17 14:27:02

The answer is simple. Do not let him control you.

Next time he gets the food out just tell him that if that is what he wants you are sure he will be happy to cook it for himself, but you are having,,, whatever your choice is.

But I think it still comes back to why on earth do you let him control you so - and perhaps that is the issue you need to address

Eglantine19 Thu 17-Aug-17 13:24:35

I'd leave his choice on the worktop for him to cook and cook what I wanted for myself. Not all the time. If I wanted what he'd put out then we could both enjoy it. The solution is in your hands. He can't make you do anything you don't want to do.

NanaandGrampy Thu 17-Aug-17 12:57:47

Just ignore it? If he wants to eat that let him, you eat what you want.

Greyduster Thu 17-Aug-17 12:42:41

I had this conversation with DH just the other day. I don't know how it started but I said to him that if we had to live on everything he liked, I would die of boredom in a month. He is not eclectic in his food choices, and he isn't allowed to dictate what both of us will eat. Why should you have to put up with such arbitrary behaviour?

glammanana Thu 17-Aug-17 12:42:33

I'm more than confused what right does someone have to dictate what you are eating that day my OH would never dream of undermining me in this way it sounds as though control freak doesn't even hit the sides of this man,a bully would be more of a corect discription sorry ladies.

petra Thu 17-Aug-17 12:29:00

I'm a bit confused. Could you explain why you don't say to him: I'm not having that......I want so and so.
Would you go into a restaurant and just accept what they put in front of you?

Oriel Thu 17-Aug-17 12:03:04

I often prepare two different dishes... I don't eat meat, my husband sees it as essential. The reasons I don't eat meat is simply because I don't like it but I have no objection to eating say a roast dinner - I just don't eat the meat.

I wouldn't be happy with the situation you have. Have you told your husband how you feel about it? If you have spoken to him and he's still adamant that he should be able to choose I think I would point out how unreasonable his viewpoint is in fairly strong terms.

If that fails then I would just cook something for him and something else that you would like. I hate fiddling around doing portions for one so I usually make, say, a large veg curry and freeze in single portion sizes.

MiniMouse Thu 17-Aug-17 11:38:58

I'm the same as Tanith. It's a bit more hassle to prepare two different meals, but worth it if you end up eating something that you enjoy.

What would happen if you put your foot down and insisted that you made the choice for both of you sometimes?

Niobe Thu 17-Aug-17 10:54:41

I would get up earlier than him and get out what I wanted to eat before he was up. Would make sure it was things I wanted to eat and if he didn't agree then he could cook his own.

tanith Thu 17-Aug-17 10:39:19

I cook different meals for us several days a week as DH is a meat and potatoes man and I prefer variety. I buy loads of things that he wouldn't touch and he puts in the trolley things that he likes Let your DH have what he wants and you do likewise, why do you just go along with his choices day after day? confused

Diddy1 Thu 17-Aug-17 10:14:03

I am here again to have a rant, you know me, I am married to a control freak!
I am fed up with this and have to write, DH gets out the food we are to have for our evening meal every day, when I get up, the food HE has chosen is there, either from the freezer or the fridge, no discussion, what shall we eat tonight, no, every day the same procedure, I can hear some of you saying"lucky you, dont need to bother, what is she moaning about" but I would love to have a choice sometime, it is always what HE wants to eat, I love some things but he doesnt, so we dont eat them. I would love to cook some favourite English dishes but he isnt keen.I feel soon I will have forgotten how to cook! If ever I have said shall we have this, he then says "I thought we should have something else".Some suggestions please!