I can't go into great detail but I am really worried about somebody who appears to be in a coercive relationship and I don't know legally or morally what is the best way forward so I am hoping there is somebody out there who knows the technicalities of the legal system as the last thing I want to do is scupper any legal proceedings.
The story starts with an allegation of serious child abuse against a man who admits it to the police which then leads to further allegations which he hasn't admitted but may not be pursued because the person who witnessed historic events died. The admitted charges plus a couple more have been put to the CPS for permission to proceed with the court case. The child concerned is a grandchild of the abuser.
The Grandmother was naturally horrified, talked about leaving but when the Grandfather was released, he collected her to "work things out," and since then has not been accessible to her daughter, her friends, etc. He has sold her car, monitors her correspondence, replies to her messages, goes with her to her counselling with their GP, etc. He has put the house on the market and intends to move her away from all her family and friends despite the fact he is almost certainly going to prison for his misdeeds. Lockdown is certainly working in his favour too. His misdeeds have not been explained to any family or friends because her daughter said she thought her Mum would be suicidal if anybody found out...we don't know whether that was him or her saying that although the language sounded like him.
My sister wrote to the police regarding our concerns and they agreed that they had a sense of the coercive control from what they had seen but unless the victim makes a complaint, there is little they can do. We have discussed at length whether there is anything we can do. We both feel that we should at least alert the GP who is counselling them what is going on so they are aware. We wonder if we tell family and friends about the forthcoming court case whether they might somehow be able to gain access to the abusers wife. However, we don't want to overstep the mark if it would in anyway prejudice the legal proceedings.
In some ways we want to just step back and let whatever will happen, happen but in other ways that just seems a bit of a cop out. The difficulty in finding our way forward in this mess is just horrible and keeping me awake at night.
Good Morning Thursday 25th April 2024
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