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DH dragging his feet re a new will.

(58 Posts)
Grannynannywanny Mon 19-Oct-20 08:45:44

My brother recently updated his will. He set up a power of attorney as well. Something that’s advisable to have in place if the need arises at some point. It doesn’t become active until the person becomes mentally incapacitated. His solicitor did the will update free of charge along with the POA.

PollyDolly Mon 19-Oct-20 08:29:17

Marmardoit, I have sent a PM.

mumofmadboys Mon 19-Oct-20 08:16:24

We have 5 sons. Rewritten will in last few years. All our boys are executors. We didn't want any upset between them. As it happens sons 3 and 5 would be best at the job! When my sister and I were executors to my parents wills I did most of the practical stuff as I was on the spot. My sister was just sent things to sign. We employed a solicitor. It was straightforward.

Aldom Sun 18-Oct-20 11:31:23

I recently amended my will. My solicitor had retired and the firm changed hands. I gave my copy of my will, which had the previous legal firm's heading, to the new solicitor and he made contact and located the original. So no need for you to search.

Mamardoit Sun 18-Oct-20 09:49:43

Thank for the replies.

I will certainly get on with finding the original wills.

Our wills will be straight forward. Just split between the DC. The only problem could be that ours are at different stages in their lives. The older ones have their own homes and young families. The youngest two are single and still in their early 20s. One is renting and the other still in the family home. Maybe there is scope for wrangling.

More reason to get things sorted.

Maggiemaybe Sun 18-Oct-20 09:37:39

We recently had new wills drawn up for a similar reason - one of our named executors had died and we were pretty certain the remaining one would now just hand it over to a company who would do the admin for a hefty percentage of the estate!

It’s a straightforward will and we were advised by our solicitor to name just two of our children as executors as they’d have to take time off work etc to attend any appointments together. Fortunately they get on well so we just picked the eldest two and explained the situation to them all.

B9exchange Sun 18-Oct-20 09:00:07

The advice we were given was always to have children and a solicitor as executors, so much easier for the legal bits, and to sort out any wrangling discussion between siblings.

I imagine if you google the name of the solicitors on your will, or look them up at companies house, you will find out if they are still active, or who took over? Good luck with using all your wiles on DH!

Mamardoit Sun 18-Oct-20 08:43:21

I've been trying to convince DH that we both need new wills He keeps putting it off. Our existing wills were written 20 years ago when our youngest DC were still small children. The older two were still teenagers. Obviously our main worry then was naming guardians for the younger DC.

In the will solicitors were named as executors. Now we would rather our adult DC take on that role. He thinks we just need to write a note naming new executors and get a couple of the neighbours to witness us signing it. This is not good enough is it?

Can our children just take on the role if we die before new wills are made? I'm fairly certain the firm of solicitors we used no longer exists so I have no idea who has our wills. We do have copies.

Also how may executors do people usually have? I'm going to have to discus this with all of them and hope none of them take offence if they are not chosen. Not something I want to do but I'm not going to just stick my head in the sand like their dad.