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(9 Posts)
Soupy Wed 03-Feb-21 14:17:20

I'd certainly look into both POAs if your mother has capability.

If the Nursing Home is going to be her future home then yes, you will probably have to sell the house at some future point to cover the fees. I had to do this some years ago for my mother.

You have to be very careful about Deprivation of Assets. Maybe worth checking with her local Social Services/Council/the Nursing Home re fees etc.

Nannarose Wed 03-Feb-21 14:01:51

I agree about legal advice.
The main issue is as above, and also if you have siblings (or anyone else, who might have an 'interest'.
However, 'caretaking' in return for paying bills but not rent is not uncommon - I have done it. It can especially apply if for instance, you need to repair & decorate the property.
FYI 'short term' in regards to legal / residential is often regarded as 'up to 3 months'

keepingquiet Wed 03-Feb-21 10:02:28

I would pay her rent-I'm sure you can agree something that all parties are happy with. Living rent free sounds a bit cheeky to me.

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 03-Feb-21 09:19:21

I’m assuming that your Mother doesn’t have Dementia as she has told you that you can move into her home, it might be a good idea to get a POA drawn up so that if she needs anything done in the future you will have the authority to go ahead with it.
MIL went into a home and her POA had an error in it, it took ages to sort , luckily the Care Home waited for their payment for over 3 months as the bank wouldn’t release any funds to my SIL to pay for her care.
As the others say, get legal advice re moving into your Mums home, it might be ok in the short term, but you might find it’s a temporary solution if the house needs to be sold.

Witzend Tue 02-Feb-21 11:14:20

I would just add that unless the house is particularly large or special, any rent will be highly unlikely to cover more than a small part of nursing home fees.

Though of course if she has a substantial income and/or enough savings anyway, the rent may be a useful extra.

Witzend Tue 02-Feb-21 11:04:43

If she’s not able to pay her own nursing home fees, then I’m afraid it’s very likely that sooner or later the local authority will require the house to be sold in order to cover them.

Smileless2012 Tue 02-Feb-21 10:59:08

As Peasblossom has posted, you should get some proper advice. Problems would arise if your mum's unable to pay the fees. She may have to start charging rent, have a charge put on her property or have to sell.

Peasblossom Tue 02-Feb-21 10:53:24

Best to get a legal agreement drawn up so you’re both clear about what you think you’ve agreed. It wouldn’t cost much and could save a lot of hassle.

The biggest problem would be if she can’t pay the fees and applies for help. Then asset deprivation would be an issue as she could have income from rent to offset against fees. Also a charge could be put in the house.
It’s really best to get some qualified advice

brex Tue 02-Feb-21 10:34:38

My mum has moved into a nursing home, this means her house is standing empty.
We currently rent our home and my mum has said about us moving into her home.
She wouldn't charge us rent but we would take over all the household bills council tax water gas etc.
She said basically we would be caretakers.
Is there any legal reason she couldn't do this.