Changing Info on a Will

“when he died in December”- so, your DH is no more ? Can’t advise, because I don’t understand.

Sorry Crazy I've not phrased that very well. My DD's dad is my ex. and he's the dad of my 2 DD's.

I'm a bit confused too so the girls actual dad died in December, he left one more money than the other and she has got the hump and is basically estranging herself from all of you by not giving her forwarding address? Is it just a get a bit of peace for a while or has she said it's a forever thing?

What is your DH grumpy about in particular?

When I moved all I did was email the people who hold it I think to give them the new address?

MadeinYorkshire my 2 DD have not spoken to each other for about 5 years. DD1 told her dad she wanted nothing off him. She is waiting for a diagnosis for ADHD and blames my ex and his family for a lot of her problems beside that. She thinks that I have taken sides with her sister and stuff her dad said which I haven't. My DH is angry because I have tried to be understanding with her but all I get from her are very upsetting messages. I have a post on the Estrangement forum. It seems she doesn't want anything more to do with us.

It just so happens that the solicitor for my ex. is the same as mine. I don't want to keep pestering my other daughter with all this as she is fed up of her and blocked her from contact. I don't know whether to ring my solicitor tomorrow or not to tell them she won't respond to their letters. It's a real dilemma for us.

I believe the address of a beneficiary of a will is not necessary. Otherwise wills would need to be changed every time someone moved, which isn't the case.

If there is ever a case of a beneficiary of unknown address, then the lawyer or solicitor would advertise, and I think the amount could be held in trust.

However it sounds like you are thinking about not including her at all in your will, which in my mind is not a good idea even if she is estranged. Your solicitor should be able to give proper advice... you don't need to make a decision immediately.

Thanks Canadiangran. I don't want to exclude her. I have to go back to my solicitor at a later date so I will mention it then. Circumstances might have changed by then anyway.

You don’t need to include or update people’s addresses in wills, or tell your solicitor every time they move. Otherwise it would be a never ending saga! Just keep an up to date list of addresses, so far as you know them, and phone numbers with your copy of the will to help the executors in due course. Believe me, beneficiaries come out of the woodwork when someone dies despite their protestations of not wanting money. If they decide to be elusive solicitors have ways of tracing them.

If the solicitor is still corresponding with her about her inheritance from her late father you could tell him the situation as a matter of courtesy but it’s up to him to find a way of contacting her, not your problem.