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Caught speeding

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crazyH Sun 02-Nov-25 21:39:13

My young adult grandson, who I adore, was caught speeding last week. He was driving my car at the time, so the Penalty Notice came to me. I am supposed to complete this form.
I will inform them that it wasn’t me and that it was my grandson.
When I told my friend, she was very shocked that I did not cover up for him and take the blame myself. I just do not like telling lies. She said 3 points on my licence wouldn’t matter too much , but he is a young man looking for jobs etc.
Anyway, now I feel bad that I didn’t help my grandson, even though it’s actually fraudulent. And my grandson is also a bit disappointed. He said lots of people take on other people’s penalty points. I really don’t understand how they can do that.
I think he expected me to take on his points.
I feel so guilty now.
What would you have done? x

ViceVersa Mon 03-Nov-25 08:38:17

I can honestly say I don't know anyone who would agree to do that. I agree with everyone else - apart from the fact that both of you would be breaking the law, it's hardly teaching him to take responsibility for his own actions.

Georgesgran Mon 03-Nov-25 08:37:11

Spot on PaynesGrey

Don’t be tempted to pay his fine Crazy and I’d tell him how much your policy renewal cost will increase due to his actions.

My sister in law has just completed her fourth (!) driving awareness course - they have no effect on her whatsoever.

Sarnia Mon 03-Nov-25 08:21:13

I wouldn't feel guilty about your grandson but I would be furious with him. He needs to learn a lesson and fast (pun intended) that speed kills. Covering up for him teaches him nothing and enables his poor driving. Let him take his punishment.

Chocolatelovinggran Mon 03-Nov-25 08:19:19

What a strange friend, encouraging you to break the law and risk prosecution yourself.

25Avalon Mon 03-Nov-25 08:18:20

His ‘crime’ his ‘punishment’. Not yours. He is lucky you let him drive your car. If he is so irresponsible as to even suggest you take these points for him then I’d think twice about letting him drive my car again.

Flippinheck Mon 03-Nov-25 08:17:41

As others have said you did the right thing. Your grandson was disappointed in you!? What an absolute cheek! When you renew your insurance you will have to declare the fact that he (if a named driver) has a speeding ticket and your premium will go up. I would take him off your insurance and not let him near your car for six months or so, then he might understand how disappointed you are in him.

Luckygirl3 Mon 03-Nov-25 08:11:11

No question that you have done the right thing. Don't let anyone guilt trip you.
Hopefully he will do the speed awareness course and learn something that might save his or someone else's life.

Shelflife Sun 02-Nov-25 23:20:28

Triple!!! Don't know how that happened!

Shelflife Sun 02-Nov-25 23:18:19

Don't feel guilty. Your GS was caught speeding so he takes the responsibility for that offence . If you had covered for him you would have been at risk of perverting the course of justice. You did the right thing.

Shelflife Sun 02-Nov-25 23:15:41

Do not feel guilty you did the best thing
He was caught speeding so he takes responsibility for that. Covering for him would have put
you at risk of perverting the course of justice. You did the right thing.

Shelflife Sun 02-Nov-25 23:11:35

Of course you did the right thing. Why on earth would you take responsibly for his offence!? Don't feel guilty he was the driver and he was caught speeding so he must take responsibly.
Your friend is wrong! and if you had covered for your GS you run the risk of perverting the course of justice.
You took the correct action.

VANECAM Sun 02-Nov-25 23:11:04

I would have done exactly the same as you.
You have no cause to feel bad.

Mollygo Sun 02-Nov-25 23:08:06

I think you were right. Which is more likely to at deterrent to future speeding?
Points on his license or you covering up for him.

Allira Sun 02-Nov-25 23:05:29

Ask him if he wants a prison sentence!
That could hinder his job prospects more than a speeding fine.

Charleygirl5 Sun 02-Nov-25 23:02:23

I agree with everybody else. He has to learn the hard way, and expecting you to pick up the points is so wrong. I wouldn't lend my car to him in a hurry.

crazyH Sun 02-Nov-25 22:52:41

4 years since he passed his test,

Thanks Allira

Allira Sun 02-Nov-25 22:45:19

crazyH

www.moneysupermarket.com/car-insurance/how-does-black-box-insurance-work/

Allsorts Sun 02-Nov-25 22:44:14

You did the right thing. Maybe he will learn a lesson and drive responsibly. Personally I would be loathe to let him drive my car.

crazyH Sun 02-Nov-25 22:42:54

Or rather IS insured to drive my car

Allira Sun 02-Nov-25 22:42:52

How long since he passed his test?

crazyH Sun 02-Nov-25 22:42:05

Yes, he was insured to drive my car 🙏

Allira Sun 02-Nov-25 22:42:02

Who was the MP whose wife claimed she was driving when it was he who was speeding?

Oh yes, Chris Huhne and Vicky Pryce. They each got eight months in prison for perverting the course of justice.

You did the right thing, *crazy. If your grandson is old enough to drive, he is old enough to take responsibility fr his own actions.

I do know of young drivers who have just passed their test have had a box fitted in the car to monitor their speed, braking etc which will help bring down insurance costs if they drive sensibly and according to the rules.could you have one of those fitted?

A speed awareness course should help him and is better than points.

Galaxy Sun 02-Nov-25 22:24:36

Your friend is a bit crazy.

Smileless2012 Sun 02-Nov-25 22:21:54

I would have done as you are doing crazy. Your GS needs to take responsibility for his own actions and hopefully this will be a lesson learned.

GrannyIvy Sun 02-Nov-25 22:16:39

You did the right thing he was speeding please don’t feel guilty. He has to learn and take responsibility.