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Doodledog
Most care homes have both paying residents and those being paid for though. It's a myth that you have a better deal if you pay for yourself, in most areas anyway. A friend was looking at local ones for her mother, and they all charge around £1500 a week if you pay, but also take people funded by the state, and there is no difference at all in the rooms or service the different people receive.
In some ways, if there are things you want to do, you may as well pay to do them and let the LA fund your care if you are unlucky enough to need it - it won't matter to where you end up in most cases. Operations are a different matter. If you are comfortable with queue jumping, it is definitely a case of money talking.
If you are funded you cannot choose they could send you anywhere in the country where there is a vacancy and they are few and far between at the moment. At least if you can fund yourself, you can search and hopefully find one which is near your family and offers nice surroundings, a room with ensuite and a view, a nice garden and all the other comforts we are used to at home. You will find it hard to get that if you are funded. I know what I choose as long as I can. The local councils buy block bookings in some of the care homes hence they get the very much cheaper price and yes self funders subsidised them or else they could not make ends meet.
Do people often get sent far from home? The few people I know with relatives in homes are all very local.
I am aware of deprivation of assets, and am not suggesting that; but buying things you like (I don't know - decent boots or a Netflix subscription, or going on a luxury holiday) instead of saving in case you have to pay for care is not deprivation of assets. It is living your life. I am not suggesting anything, actually - just making the point that the idea that paying gusts in care homes get more than those who are staying free is a myth, in my (albeit limited) experience.
When it comes to taking out of the NHS, CariadAgain, much of that is luck. Many people are unfortunate to need lots of hospital stays, just as many need unemployment benefits and so on. That's what NI contributions are for. I don't understand feeling angry about choosing to opt for something not offered by the NHS (if that's what you did). There is nothing virtuous about not needing operations, or sinful about needing them. We are lucky to live somewhere that offers an insurance system whereby we all get treated regardless of existing contributions and/or ability to pay.