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How can you NOT KNOW you are pregnant?

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Nanadogsbody Thu 20-Sept-12 08:28:29

There's a huge difference between hiding your pregnancy and not knowing you are actually pregnant. The latter is almost unbelievable to most of us, but apparently it happens confused

JessM Thu 20-Sept-12 08:18:02

I think "concealed pregnancy" has a judgemental tone to it - almost Victorian.

Nanadogsbody Thu 20-Sept-12 07:59:17

A 15-year old that we know woke her mother in the middle of the night and asked to be taken to hospital as 'the baby is coming'. Her mother, a professional woman, was in shock as this was the first she knew about it. The daughter had realised she was pregnant but hid it well. It even went unnoticed during PE lessons at school.

Lilygran Thu 20-Sept-12 07:55:05

Obstetrician on Today just now says "concealed pregnancies" (means ones where mother didn't know as well as ones they hid) run at about one in 2500 generally and 1 in 120 in some places. She said it was commoner among teenagers. One of my aunts thought it was 'the change' right up to the delivery!

JessM Thu 20-Sept-12 07:51:34

And of course there is the powerful psychological defence - denial in which one dismisses all kinds of unpalatable things from the conscious mind.

Greatnan Thu 20-Sept-12 07:37:56

It is certainly possibe to hide a pregnany from other people. When I was 14 I visited my elder sister, who had three children, one only just a year old. I noticed a new pram and asked her why she had got one when he was nearly ready for a pushchair. That was August Bank Holiday. She had another baby on 2nd September. She was very petite, about 5' 2" and slightly built.When we asked her why had kept her pregnancy secret, she said she was embarrassed at having another baby so soon. She was a very strange, secretive type anyway.

JessM Thu 20-Sept-12 07:29:03

Ah yes is was more than a month early.

JessM Thu 20-Sept-12 07:26:15

I remember a 17 year old i met who really did not look pregnant and she was not obese. Which can hide a pregnancy - but not likely in a soldier!
But:
If the mother has got rock hard abs. If she has a fairly large frame and if the baby is not very big. If she normally exercises hard and does not have regular periods. If she thought the movements were wind. If she didn't notice her boobs were bigger.
i suspect team means an army midwife as they won't have one out there. But it could also be that the baby is a month or more early - small - and I don't think people normally would put new mums and neonates in planes.

Greatnan Thu 20-Sept-12 07:07:32

I think it does happen, quite genuinely, especially if the baby is very small. What I can't understand is why a 'team' is having to be flown out to Afghanistan to care for mother and baby on the way home.

Bags Thu 20-Sept-12 06:29:24

Especially in the third trimester.

Soldier (female, obviously) has given birth while on duty in Afghanistan. I've never understood how people manage not to know they are pregnant.

I suppose female soldiers on duty might take drugs to stop their periods, which might partly explain why she "wouldn't notice" she wasn't having periods, but there are quite large physical changes during pregnancy. How do people miss these? I've always assumed that such people must be very UNBodyAware. My 'bumps' were quite hard, and I felt lots of trial contractions, then there were breast changes (colostrum not least), and many more telltale signs.

How on earth do they manage NOT TO NOTICE?

Weird.