Jess, I am in agreement with you. I actually wonder whether our heavy handed approach to considering even the slightest contact that could be construed as sexual between a child and adult as a serious sexual attack by a paedophile is actually far more damaging to the young person involved than the actual event itself.
Do not get me wrong I am not suggesting that when a child complains about inappropriate contact they should be ignored, dismissed or the adult involved should not be made to face some formal procedure but I find myself thinking back to a couple of very brief minor inappropriate contact events in my childhood. A man I saw regularly at the swimming pool used to like playing with the children in the pool, he used to pick us up and hold us close before throwing us into the water. As an adult I realise he was holding us on his erection. I wasnt distressed, just puzzled and uncomfortable and I avoided him, but currently if I had told my mother, she would have reported it to the police, I would have been interviewed by carefully trained female police officers, I would have been seen by psychologists and councellors and the whole thing would have been built up is such a way that the response would be traumatising in a way the actual event that triggered it wasnt.
A serious sexual attack is something very different and should be treated very seriously