kathleen turner - get over it!

When I was young I was nothing special but OK I suppose. However, I wish I had appreciated the bloom of youth (I did have nice skin) and slim figure which I thought too fat. I try to appreciate the good points I have now as no doubt in 20 years I'll look back and wish I was 63 again. (God willing!)

I have a sister-in-law who was a real looker. She's 58 now and hasn't aged well. She still wears very short skirts & dresses. Her once beautiful auburn locks are a peculiar shade of red. She has taken the loss of her looks very badly and we think it sent her a bit gaga. She's taken up with a Tunisian boy almost young enough to be her grandson. .. I often wonder if it would better to be clever or beautiful. Which one would I have picked if I'd been given the choice. Perhaps ordinary and plain get a better deal in the end

I'm just so grateful that even as a young woman my only redeeming feature was my youth... I am not ugly nor am I anything to turn around for, so not having ever had it. I have nothing to loose! Ordinary is the new black...

It is a bit naughty of me to say this but I do like to see others 'not fairing so well' in the aging stakes, just like me.

I also feel a bit sad for them. When you have had a life style of glamour and being in the limelight it must be quite horrid to look at yourself in the 'I was beautiful once' sense. I should think watching yourself in a film you once did is quite a bitter sweet thing to do actually. Think of women such as Turner, Ginger Rogers, Elizabeth Taylor etc. They have fabulous memories of how beautiful they once were on camera and how they must feel looking in a mirror in their later years.

Yes I know looks are not everything and Kathleen Turner is bang on in her comment but it has to be said some women do fair better than others and I would think they would all prefer to be in the latter group.

Vanishingly young!

Galen!

You look very young on your photo page

Thanks for letting us know who she is! - I hadn't a clue.

I am 65 - in some ways I look 65 (drooping chins, skeleton-like smile, lips vanishing before my very eyes) but in others I do not (slimmish, very dark brown long hair with no grey, and not too may wrinkles yet).

However - I definitely FEEL 65 - if not a bit older! Life is one long pain.

I do not get my knickers in a twist about what I see in the mirror - there is nothing to be done and that is who I am - take me or leave me!

I keep smiling - thin lips notwithstanding!

My grandmother once said to me that she felt like a young woman trapped in an old body and I now know what she means. When I look in the mirror I think I look good but I have recently noticed my friends are all looking old so I think I must be too. No one offered me a seat on the tube the other day so I can't have looked too bad!

I loved her as Joan Wilder in those films with Michael Douglas. Watched them all with my children in the 80s.

Ariadne - Kathleen Turner was in a lot of films with Michael Douglas - war of the roses? - I also thought she was gorgeous in Peggy Sue got married.

Kiora - I agree with you that short and dumpy (me) isn't ideal but I do think a smile is the best face lift. Also I try to look up - luckily I have a tall husband - and not down if I can help it. I see my grandmother in the mirror - can be quite scary. Looking back she was only in her fifties but looked ancient to me as a child. At least we are allowed brighter colours nowadays and more flattering hairstyles. Another helpful thing is that my husband is 7 years older so he always thinks I'm young. Bless him.

Kiora, what a lovely thing to say " grandchildren who see with their hearts and not their eyes" you have brightened my day. Thank you

I hate looking 60 too. I just do. I look in the mirror ( as little as possible) and think " god I look terrible" but there's nothing I can do about it. I have recently had my hair dyed a fairly dark brown nothing as dark as my younger slimmer self. My hair dresser has given me that style that's fashionable now. Flat with a Side parting and a longer angled side fringe. I sometimes think if I grew a moustache ( and I could if I want to believe me) Id look like bloody hitler. Those women with long graceful necks and beautiful silver hair can look lovely as they age. This cannot be said for small, short necked battleship grey people like me. I'v got no wrinkles but I'm getting jowls and look as if I'm gurning all the time . I look marginally better if I smile but then if I do that I'll be locked up. In my defence I have grandchildren who's faces light up when they see me and tell me over and over how lovely I am. Oh the absolute joy of beloved grandchildren who see with their hearts and not their eyes.

Who is Kathleen Turner, please? Sounds like a sensible woman! (I am renowned in the family for not knowing who well known people are..."Oh mum! You know, she \ he is etc.")

You looking old Tegan? Which mirror are you looking in?

Ktahleen Turner has that voice...

Then again Susan Greenfield never commented on the fact that any man that 'doesn't fancy her when she walks into a room must be gay' [at least I don't think she 's ever said that]. I never thought Kathleen Turner was all that good looking anyway. I HATE looking old [and if anyone had told me a few years ago that I would say that I would never have believed them].

Thanks Bags Susan Greenfield could take a leaf out of Kathleen Turner's book, couldn't she?

PM'd you Nonu.

Bang on: "You have to get to that place as a woman where you know your worth isn't dependent on (looks)."

This one, perhaps?

Can someone post a link to the article or give us a clue where it might be?

Thanks, Nonu.

I read the article about Kathleen Turner as well, rockgran, and it was heartening to hear someone who was once known for her glamorous image saying it doesn't matter a fig to her that she's lost her looks.

Despite her health problems, she's still acting and has a new film coming out soon!

Hi Envious , you are good ??
I am , looking forward to family arriving Tuesday !