Whose fault is it? [hmm]

We don't know, in our insulated little worlds, how those people get treated.

Why do people think our police are so saintly?

I certainly believe it is a possibility.

This issue came up some time within the last year and then it involved a young black man. I can't remember the details but it was said that the police hounded him because they wanted him to be a sort of double agent.

Agreed! Ana.
Regardless of the police interest in their brother, that does not make three grown women and all of their children head off to a war zone, and a terror group like ISIS.No doubt these husbands feel fools, if they truly didn't know it was going to happen.We don't even know the truth of that though, at this moment in time.So they are casting around for somebody, anybody, to blame!

I think we can already predict which GN posters will think YABU, Lilygran as the subject has been discussed on another thread.

I think it's quite possible, even probable, that the police did put too much pressure on the women to keep in touch with their brother. I think it's "security at all costs" at all costs at the moment, which is understandable, but it could well have backfired in this instance. The police could well have been heavy-handed. Maybe it was too much for these young women, having the police breathing their necks all the times. Our police are far from saintly in these matters.