Nonnie As soop is too nice to retaliate, others have to "put their oar in" on her behalf.
I don't remember reading such an uncalled-for put-down as duhamjen's to soop in the five years I have been on gransnet - and there have been some right ding-dongs.
I'd say that is what has horrified some of us - soop wasn't engaged in a ding-dong, just making an infrequent visit, and was sent back to the kitchen with her head bitten off. If you think dj is being unfairly picked on, anniebach transfer your attention to soop for a moment. dj is not in need of your sympathy, she is quite capable of dishing out as least as good as she gets, in the interests of "robust debate", aka snippiness.