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Would you give birth to your grandchild?

(22 Posts)
granoffour Wed 07-Dec-16 14:50:29

This is an amazing story of a mum helping out her daughter. I'd do anything for my daughter if she was in a similar position, though I'm a bit too old now to help with any pregnancies!

Jayanna9040 Wed 07-Dec-16 15:25:17

Absolutely. Think I'd do almost anything to become a granny!????

gillybob Wed 07-Dec-16 15:47:58

I think I could/would do it for my DD.

Be careful what you wish for Jayanna9040 I wished for one and got three. My DiL's mum wished for one and ended up with eight within 4 years!

Anniebach Wed 07-Dec-16 15:56:36

No, I don't think I would

Anya Wed 07-Dec-16 16:20:38


SueDonim Wed 07-Dec-16 16:29:12


tanith Wed 07-Dec-16 16:30:21

I would if I were young enough not sure at 68 I would be able to.

Luckygirl Wed 07-Dec-16 16:41:30

If I was 45, like this grandmother, I would do it without a second thought.

TwiceAsNice Wed 07-Dec-16 16:44:29

Yes as long as I was young enough

chloe1984 Wed 07-Dec-16 16:54:51

In a heartbeat

daphnedill Wed 07-Dec-16 16:57:25

I know somebody who was a surrogate mother for her sister's baby. I found it quite difficult to get my head round, but seeing the joy which the baby brought the sister, I think I could be persuaded (except I'm too old and had difficult pregnancies, so probably couldn't anyway).

f77ms Wed 07-Dec-16 17:26:41

Yes I would have done when I was able . It must be heart breaking to want a baby so much and not be able to get preggers

Rinouchka Wed 07-Dec-16 19:23:57

Yes, if only I could.

rafichagran Wed 07-Dec-16 20:02:40

No, I could not do it

Cherrytree59 Wed 07-Dec-16 20:33:49

Already been through 2 pregnancies of my own.
So one more for the joy of helping my DD to hold her baby in her arms would not be problem.
Thankfully I have GC as at 57 I'm probably not eligible.

Anniebach Wed 07-Dec-16 21:07:04

I have supported my younger daughter for just over twenty years in her longing for a child, so many IVF treatments, long discussions on donor eggs and surrogacy , listen to her relate what had been said in support groups, spent hours talking and listening to her and my elder daughter discuss elder daughter being a surrogate , so complicated, so many emotions, so many raw emotions .

etheltbags1 Wed 07-Dec-16 22:23:30

I would do it but I would find it hard to give the baby up afterwards

M0nica Thu 08-Dec-16 09:26:14

I would were I young enough, 45, when you are still menstruating and the same age as some other mothers. I could carry it and give it back because I would not be the child's mother, just its incubator.

rosesarered Thu 08-Dec-16 09:33:28

The short answer is no, but having said that, it would depend on a few things.How old I was at the time ( being mid sixties now it hardly counts) but even were I 45 at the time,
It could be dangerous at that age.So I don't know with any certainty.I can't imagine my daughters asking me to do that.

rosesarered Thu 08-Dec-16 09:34:44

There are so many children in care, that need a loving home.

thatbags Thu 08-Dec-16 10:58:02

It would depend on stuff. As it happens, I was nearly 45 when Minibags was born so the physical side might not have been an issue. The emotional side probably would have been though, especially as I would probably have wanted to breast feed the baby... but maybe not if it was for a daughter.

So, dunno is the answer really. The circumstances described in the OP link are fairly unusual I should think. I don't think we ever know in advance just how we'd behave in really unusual circumstances.

granjura Thu 08-Dec-16 17:03:43