Just wrote a very long message, which I erased by mistake.
Mawbroon, I am so so sorry to hear that. As I left GN for a very long time, and do not go on the social threads, I was not aware of this. Cant imagine how hard that must have been, and still is. And I send my most sincere condoleances.
The 'green eyed monster' comment was not aimed at anyone in particular. It has however been mentioned many times on Expat sites- that the lack of concern of empathy from relatives or friends was probably due to the 'oh you left UK because it/we were not good enough for you' and 'you keep posting photos of your wonderful house and garden, and your idylic life there ... so if things get tough for you ... well, you know... tough.
I am quite sure there is an element of that- and varying degrees of %.
I'd hope that the relatives and friends of those who have moved abroad some years back, having sold everything in the UK and planned very carefully- but now face severe health issues- with all the uncertainty of what will happen to their heathcare, and the knowledge they could not afford to go back - would have some empathy.
I totally agree that my new kitchen or world tour are totally and absolutely insignificant in the grand scale of things. Some people are really suffering, and truly do not know what they will do and how they will survive, and terrified they will have to rely on social services and non existent council housing- as their houses in France or wherever, will be worthless.
Again, I am sincerely sorry for your pain MawBroon.