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How old is old?

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Jo1960 Tue 07-May-19 13:29:37

Hi fellow gransnetters, I'm hopefully about to start some research about older women but there's no concensus about what "older" means. When I worked for age concern it was 50. It still is for Age UK products. Whole of life policies target over 50s. Some housing providers use 50 others 55 and some are 45! I'd love your views

ninathenana Tue 07-May-19 15:09:58

DH is 71 he dosen't like it when he complains about aches and pains and I remind him he's no spring chicken.

When I was DD age I thought pension age was old (60 then) I received my first pension payment today at 65. In my head I'm 35 but some days my body thinks I'm 85.

Greenfinch Tue 07-May-19 15:12:48

I agree .I don't feel old but my body does!

M0nica Tue 07-May-19 15:27:35

Being a very factual rather nerdish person, I work on the maths.

Take 90 years as rapidly becoming the average life span, you are therefore young until you are 30, then you become middle aged and you become old at 60.

Feelings do not come into it. Just take average life span and divide by 3

What you are doing or not doing at any given age, how fit/unfit or anything else is irrelevant. DH and I, both 75, spent this morning in the garden with a chainsaw cutting a large dead tree down. We now have a nice pile of logs drying out for winter 2020/21

EllanVannin Tue 07-May-19 15:37:26

I'm another whose mind is still 40 but actual age is nearly double that----body gladly isn't quite catching up yet but I suppose if I reach 90 it will smile

Sara65 Tue 07-May-19 15:48:01

Yes, I have aches and pains, but in my mid sixties I don’t feel a whole lot different than I did twenty years ago. Do I consider myself old? Absolutely not!

Nonnie Tue 07-May-19 16:08:04

'Older' is older than me! One of my neighbours is 95 and could not be described as 'elderly', she lives alone, walks to my house, has good sight and hearing and is very astute. I'm no help to you at all.

sunseeker Tue 07-May-19 16:15:36

A much younger sister in law was helping me sort out some things and refused to allow me to carry anything downstairs as she was "aware you are now 70" !!!!! - I like to think that 70 is merely the number of years the world has enjoyed my company - I don't feel any different now than I did when I was 25 - except I can no longer stand up without making sound effects grin

Gymstagran Tue 07-May-19 17:22:15

Like that Ellenvannin

PamelaJ1 Tue 07-May-19 17:41:37

Is it a number or a state of health/mind?
I think it’s when you start to realise you can’t do something that you have previously had no trouble with for the first time.
It happened to mum at about 88.

GabriellaG54 Tue 07-May-19 19:21:36

When I started work, at coffee break all the married or engaged women talked about was their husbands, shopping for their evening meal and domestic problems. The oldest would have been 24. Times change. Marriage, when/if it happens, is much later in life.
I think that some 70 yr olds are more like 80 but, in general, 70 is old to everyone under 50.

GabriellaG54 Tue 07-May-19 19:23:15

Great comment sunseeker ???

MamaCaz Tue 07-May-19 19:30:11

It's all relative. Ask a twenty year old, and you will probably get the same answer that a twenty-year old would have given donkeys' years ago!

BBbevan Tue 07-May-19 19:44:05

I am 74. I may consider being old in my late 80s. Until then I refuse to be an old lady.

Mycatisahacker Tue 07-May-19 19:45:57

Gosh all relative.

I am 55 and very very hot! smile

MamaCaz Tue 07-May-19 19:48:39

Mycatisahacker
The menopause, maybe? ?

SirChenjin Tue 07-May-19 19:49:32

You need HRT for that mycat wink

MamaCaz Tue 07-May-19 19:49:49

(Sorry - I couldn't resist!) ?

Mycatisahacker Tue 07-May-19 20:04:40

Ha ha I have it!!!!

Because I was hot in a bad way now hot in a good way!

Well in my head anyway gringrin

Anniebach Tue 07-May-19 20:17:02

Old is 29, my elder daughter when small asked me if I had seen Queen Victoria

overwhichhill Tue 07-May-19 20:25:54

I had a great-aunt who was knitting for the "old people" alongside her daughter, when they were 100 and 81 respectfully!!!! They never grew old, but did feel sorry for the old people they knew (that were decades younger than themselves!).

Harris27 Tue 07-May-19 20:29:46

old is always older than you are now!