CoolioC I am sorry but I find your, no doubt well intentioned post, rather insulting to both. Lucky Girl and Me.
As I pointed out in my post my DH does NOT receive Attendance Allowance, because the DWP reckons that the Scottish Government's generosity in paying for Social Care, means that he does not need it. (BTW there is no refund via the Barnett formula for this!)
Lucky Girl has been forced into the position of selling her house because her LA will not pay the Top Up Fee required to enable her DH to stay in the home where he is settled.
Your post illustrates a view shared by many - i.e. that there are solutions and benefits available to assist those in need and Carers only need to be signposted to them for all problems to be solved. This is so NOT the case - there are hurdles to be overcome, assessments at every turn, promises and delays, waiting lists for everything, Homes closing, staff shortages, in short, it is like swimming in porridge.
I would not wish this on anyone, but those, including MPs at their surgeries, who through rose tinted spectacles, think that everything is Hunky Dory, are in for a rude shock, if they or their loved ones need to access the system.