Phillip Scofield Why all the Fuss

I know of at least 5 gay men Kittye all are lovely people but 3 of them when they came out all of a sudden their voices changed and seriously walked different.
It`s not typecasting at all as the other 2 stayed very manly.

I knew quite a few people in the 80s and early nineties who lived with their ‘friends’ too MissAdventure! They obviously felt they couldn’t come out for reasons known only to themselves and their families. My uncle has a very close friend who definitely did not come out in the fifties and sixties when it was still illegal - it beggars belief it was ever a criminal activity. It’s so sad that he felt he never had the opportunity to meet and live openly with someone whom he loved and adored.

My sister and I went to a wedding fair recently (her daughter was getting married). We wandered off together while the young ones did their thing, and it was funny how many people assumed we were a couple and tried to sell us venues and so on.

I pointed out that after living with her for so long when we were children it would be a warm January before I did it again .

If the most earth shattering news yesterday was that Phillip Schofield has come out as gay, that's a good day to my way of thinking.

On a different note I once went on a trip to the seaside with my sister (Who doesn't look a bit like me)
We booked a twin bedded room at the B&B but were given a double bed and when we queried it were told "it's ok we are very open minded!" I didn't mind as she's my sister but wouldn't have accepted it had it been a friend. Some people just presume people are gay.

Interesting that this thread, entitled Why All The Fuss -should already have run to nine pages ...

PS has had some negative press recently. I lost respect for him when he began fronting the ads for we rip you off buying your car.com. The first thing I said after the gay announcement was that it was a coincidence - I believe he is gay but I think he ‘came out’ to deflect the negativity.

I also know of a gay couple who lived together (in the mid 80s) whose whole family insisted that "nothing like that" was going on.
Apparently it was just for convenience reasons that they flat shared.

He remains in control - isn't this what we all want to do with our lives - as for Ruth being on the brink of calling him out for bullying - what kind of news is this - she's a ditherer as we have seen over the years and especially on Strictly - I have no idea whether he's been bullying her or not but if so she's had every opportunity with her own over-exposure on ITV to bring this out - she keeps it there as a simmering threat - not a very nice trait

Agree BlueBell

Totally agree with Bluebelle ??

thats his decision .not sure i really want to know his personal things. thats the trouble with this world /media ,maybe he thought every one would like to know. .well i dont and i dont care if he is coming out. coming out of where?

Well I lived with (shock horror) my not yet husband in 1963 and we lived in a flat owned by a lovely man and his boyfriend who lived together in the flat above us (openly)
1963 !!! This man got married in 1993 I m sure he wouldn’t have been hung drawn and quartered if he’d have had the courage to accept his homosexuality then
Compassion yes I have loads of compassion for kids facing cancer, refugees walking from their bombed homes, illness, homelessness, animal cruelty I could go on and on but do I feel compassion for a very rich man who bares all about his sexual preferences on a TV programme and gets lauded as if he has just swam the ocean to save a drowning human so no I m neither interested or feeling any compassion
Get on with your life silver fox and don’t mention it again once was too much

I have to admit I've actually not read the finer details of his declaration. But I think in many people in similar situations it's not so much that they have suppressed their true sexuality as that they have suddenly in mid life found themselves unexpectedly in love with someone who happens to be the same sex. I tend to think of bisexuals as people who have already found themselves attracted to both sexes - sometimes even men and women at the same time, the same day or week even. Bisexual people I know of often want both in their lives at the same time and miss sex with women if they are with a man and being faithful. Whereas the "it doesn't matter" category in my mind is that you're attracted to the gender you happen to be in love with at the time - which could mean you're heterosexual for many years then homosexual for many years after changing partner. I hope this makes sense.

Is he gay or bi sexual?? I wonder as he has been married for so long and fathered two children.

Thankfully MissAdventure. I remember well the homophobia in the 80s when no-one at school dared to come out and gay people were called poofs and queers and lezzas and worse, and then I worked on an HIV/AIDS programme in the early 90s with the NHS when men with the disease were shunned by their families and friends. Things have improved over the years thankfully, and it’s much easier for young people to live honest lives. Long may it continue.

There's a lot of feeling sorry for his poor wife and daughters.

But has anyone "official" said that his wife has only just found out, alongside the rest of the world?

For all we know Steph may also be gay, and they've rubbed along together just fine up until now. Do we know he/they have lived a lie? There's a lot of assumptions being made.

She may have known for years. We don't know if that's the case. And neither should we. It's entirely between the two of them.

And why sorry for their daughters? He's still their dad, no matter what his sexuality, and that will never change. Again, for all we know, the daughters may be well aware of his sexuality.

When it was "announced" to gasps in our office yesterday, I immediately said "he's done that because someone's threatened to out him". And if that's the case, then I can totally understand it.

But I really couldn't be less interested in his sexuality. It doesn't affect me in the slightest. All I want from Philip Schofield is his TV presenter skills, and those skills won't change (hopefully) because he's gay.

I wonder how long it will be though before the media circus reveals the first photograph of him and his new male "friend". And I really won't be interested in that, either

Times should move on if someone is in a relationship/ married to same sex as they say then that is a sign of the times after all it's not a crime to love who you love. the more love in the world the better.

He's a nice man and its really only the business of himself and his family. The only thing I would say is that as he has been married 27 years and presumably having a normal sexual life with his wife ,(or they would surely have split years ago) he is more likely bisexual rather than homosexual

Spot on Trisher

Yaaaaawwn. Boring man. Does silly adverts that's all I know. I only came here out of respect for GransNet to find out what it was about. I shouldn't have bothered. I'm not interested.

Yes, she is now married to another woman and they have three children.

Times have moved on very quickly.

Those children would not be removed these days the social services love to give placements to children into gay households it's all so absolutely modern darling.

I'm the same age as Phillip, and I think ''coming out" would have been very difficult as a young person.

My gay friend looked after her sisters abandoned children for over a year, then they were removed from her care because of her "lifestyle" by social services.

She is mid 50s.

It's the bloomin' pathos that goes with it that's sickening especially when you see/hear all the evil that goes on in the world.
What are we all expected to do about this piece of non-news ?

I read last week that he'd be leaving ? Holly had said if he goes, so does she. Mmmmm.