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Is MILF an acceptable term?

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trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 10:06:58

The Labour candidate for Hartlepool tweetedyears ago that someone was a MILF. Is he a misogynist or just a badly informed young man, and is he suitable as a Labour candidate?

suziewoozie Sun 21-Mar-21 11:36:58

We should always be concerned at any tweet by anyone that describes women in a sexualised way or describes their attractiveness. This man is a doctor, was nearly 40 at the time and it’s not the only inappropriate tweet he’s made.
My GP is not daft enough to be on Twitter but if he were and I saw a tweet like that, I’d complain to the surgery.
The other issue is about judgement - what on earth possessed him? There’s a delete button. And finally why weren’t his tweets vetted before the 2017 election when he was first elected.

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 11:27:07

I wouldn't Galaxy someone would probably drag up things I'd said on GN grin

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 11:26:08

I suppose ten yeas ago you might have been forgiven for thinking the internet and twitter were just something to do and something that would pass. Much like yesterday's newspaper headlines were for wrapping fish and chips. Unfortunately everything remains and can be dragged out when required.

Galaxy Sun 21-Mar-21 11:26:07

I am just curious whether any of us on here would be able to go into public life. Can you hand on heart say you have never said anything inappropriate.

NotSpaghetti Sun 21-Mar-21 11:21:32

Sorry trisher my point wasn't meant to say 10 years bad 11 years ok. I was (not very clearly I suppose) trying to point out that he was a fully formed adult by then. It was unacceptable ten years ago as it is today.
I also hate the sexualisation of men by women. This is not a "one way" problem - though obviously much more is directed at women.

Blossoming Sun 21-Mar-21 11:08:28

The thread title asks “Is MILF an acceptable term?” No it isn’t but would you feel happier if he’d tweeted that someone was fit or sexy, or said he’d like to “give her one”?

The second question here is should someone be held accountable for an historical social media post for which they have long since apologised? There won’t be anybody left in public life at this rate.

Peasblossom Sun 21-Mar-21 11:01:44

Didn’t I see a thread a couple of days ago about Boris Johnson displaying his bare chest, that then went on to Dishy Rishy and thence to other male torsos?

Half of me thought if it’s wrong for men to do that with women then it’s wrong full stop. And the other half of me thought it was just girl chat.

What’s on the internet stays for ever.

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 10:57:03

JaneJudge

I don't like it but is calling someone a MILF on par with impregnating other women whilst you are married?

That's a really interesting point. Which is more abusive?

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 10:54:55

tickingbird- DILF - apparently girls will be girls as well! Or is that ladism?

tickingbird Sun 21-Mar-21 10:52:47

Although it’s not the most pleasant term it’s actually meant in a flattering way and I don’t think that the people who use it give much thought to the actual term it represents. Apparently it originated in a very popular film American Pie, which I believe has become a cult classic - I’ve never seen it. Essentially it’s in praise of attractive older women. No, I’m not condoning it but, at the risk of a pile on - boys will be boys!

GrannyGravy13 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:49:25

Riverwalk

According to Wiki he's 48 so tweeted this when he was 38 - hardly a callow youth at the time and presumably even then was a GP.

I heard Shami Chakrabarti on the news and she was scathing about him and said he had to go,

That rather changes things in my opinion, he cannot use the i was young and studying argument.

It’s time folks realised that whatever you put on the internet stays there forever!

JaneJudge Sun 21-Mar-21 10:48:52

I don't like it but is calling someone a MILF on par with impregnating other women whilst you are married?

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 10:48:50

So what would be an acceptable period of time NotSpaghetti? How do we know when men have been re-educated? Or are they damned forever?

Rosie51 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:48:04

Goodness I assumed he was a student, but 38!! I hope he really has adjusted his attitude.

NotSpaghetti Sun 21-Mar-21 10:46:03

This was only ten years ago. He was already a DOCTOR. This is a position of trust.
He wasn't even "chatting to mates" (which would also be horrid). He put it out into the public domain with no shame. I find this sexualisation of women by someone who women may need to confide in totally despicable.

What IS the labour party thinking?

timetogo2016 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:46:01

The first time i heard MILF was in the film American Pie.

Riverwalk Sun 21-Mar-21 10:42:48

According to Wiki he's 48 so tweeted this when he was 38 - hardly a callow youth at the time and presumably even then was a GP.

I heard Shami Chakrabarti on the news and she was scathing about him and said he had to go,

Rosie51 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:38:29

Exactly trisher, if we don't accept someone can apologise and change their attitude then we may as well give up now. 10 years ago is a long time, he's obviously grown up in the interim.

Galaxy Sun 21-Mar-21 10:37:30

I have come to the view that we should not be policing peoples tweets, or that all those in positions of power should not be allowed on Twitter. Or we could get rid of Twitter.

Polarbear2 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:33:17

?????????? personally I’d be flattered. Get a life. Ooh young man.

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 10:32:26

Calendargirl I hadn't heard of that one. It opens up a whole new argument.

nanna8 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:31:31

Not acceptable at all. Also out of date. I remember hearing of it at least 10 years ago amongst very young males who thought they were smart.

trisher Sun 21-Mar-21 10:31:26

It was made in 2011. The man who made it is a doctor and has apologised. Although I think the term is unacceptable I am concerned that if we are going to change men's attitudes to women we will need at some point to accept that they can be re-educated and that one tweet doesn't define them for life. If we don't do that what hope is there?

Calendargirl Sun 21-Mar-21 10:27:52

Reading an article about Adrian Dunbar (Line Of Duty) apparently fans say he is a ‘Dilf’!

“Mother Of God!” as Ted Hastings would say.

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eazybee Sun 21-Mar-21 10:25:27

It is not an acceptable term.
I didn't know what it meant, looked it up and was directed to several sites for accessing porn, expressed in most unpleasant terms.
It is like somebody said recently, comparing a politician to a man who briefly dropped his trousers in the pub; instantly remedied, but never forgotten.