It’s offensive Oldwoman70 when it comes with a subtext of ‘you can’t be one of us’ if you speak like that.
We lived in Indonesia when my youngest was 6yo. Indonesian people touched her all the time, mostly pinching her cheek for luck. We also came across a school outing at a heritage site once. Everyone wanted dd in their photo and she ended up between two groups pulling on her arms in a tug of war for possession. 
Whether people ask questions is also a cultural aspect. Indonesians ask very personal questions such as your age, your medical history, where you work, how much you earn, whether you have children, their ages etc, whether your parents are alive, what they do, how much they earn, who looks after them if they’re elderly, do you have aunts and uncles and so on. It would be considered very instructive to ask such things in Western society but it’s perfectly acceptable in Indonesian society.
Virtual patient in Virtual ward ??
Please help! (grandchild being locked in bedroom)
