Lesley60 My sister died in a road accidnt some years ago. She was well known within her profession and as well as the funeral, her employer organised a memorial service. Most of the people present at the memeorial service were people she had worked with, not family.
Afterwards a lot of people came up to us to tell us how deeply her death had affected them. They said they did not know why, they did not know her well, but her death had caused them real grief. Many had been to a number of memorial services for ex work colleagues and contacts, but not felt so deeply effected.
The answer to your question is that some people just have that affect on others.
Pampered life? His childhood sounds anything but papered, by the time he was 8 his mother was in an assylum, his father had gone off to Monte Carlo with is mistress, sisters all married and away, passed around from relation to relation, no money of his own beyond what he earned. He starts a naval career in which he excels and where a bright future promised and gives it up and any career plans he might have to spend the next 73 years walking 2 steps behind the Queen with no clear purpose.
This idea that if you have money then life is a doddle is a very materialistic attitude to life and incomprehensible given that every day the media run stories of people with money who seem to constantly stagger from one disaster to another, their children on drugs or estranged.