Prince Harry

'Ancestral pain' whatever next!!!

moggie57

i wrote something about harry on here ,and yet my mesages never get published .why? am i blocked ?

If you were banned you wouldn't be able to log in moggie
And I just read this one!

Perhaps it was another Harry thread - there are a few, confusing.

Well I've just read your post, so "No".

i wrote something about harry on here ,and yet my mesages never get published .why? am i blocked ?

Despite the anguish you might cause to others the only important person is you. I think you'd have to be a bit brainwashed to hold that view in its entirety.

Well it seems that they are seeing an expert on ‘Ancestral pain’ which should release them from generations of emotional baggage.

I guess his advice is to let it all out, if it’s untrue to others, then tough, you are the one that matters not others who might have a different point of view.

Thank you Poshpaws for such a sensible post.
Too many posters with short memories.

What I mean is Charles was surely a parent too?! So not just Diana who employed a nanny

Allegedly..... good word.

I believe Meghan has sacked a nanny or two already.
No one is indispensable in that role it appears.

Yes Nanny was Barbara Barnes (I think) The boys were very fond of her and Diana allegedly didn't like this so Barbara had to go.

Anniebach

Lucca everyone has faults but for some it’s everyone has faults with the exception of Diana

I don’t think that’s the case. Certainly not for me, nor I’d surmise for any other contributors.

I don't think his mother would be happy at him trashing William?

Anniebach

Diana employed a full time nanny who lived in

Just a small point. Diana and Charles employed a full time nanny.

Harry has said - he is living the life his mother wanted to live

Why are we banging on about nappy changing? So long as someone changed Harry’s nappies, it’s totally irrelevant.
Yes Trisher, Harry, along with anyone else, is entitled to re examine their past. However there comes a point at which it is unhelpful to do so, in my opinion, and it is less painful to put the past to one side and live in the present, not the past. As I said before, I know this from experience.

Oh come on no-one remembers who changed their nappies. As for the nanny doing it -of course she did. Why is it casting aspersions on any mother because someone else changed the nappies? Is that how we measure parenting?
If Harry wants to re-examine his past publicly or privately he is quite entitled to do it. If you don't like it don't watch.

I haven't read all the comments but every time I have a quick look there is something unpleasant written about Diana. One person is coming across as very hypocritical.

I think you are right, maddyone. A lot of us have things in our upbringing that are less than ideal but at some stage most of us grow up and move on, vowing not to repeat those things in our own parenting. Possibly the two of them have had difficulties and have what some rather unkind people would call pity parties together. I don’t know but it certainly seems that way from what they say publicly.

So if Harry's therapy (as being organised by Meghan), doesn't actually work for him, will he then start blaming her?
It is all very self perpetuating.

Sadly, while Harry never heals his past and keeps raking over it, it's a money-spinner for them until the public get bored.

The basic truth is that none of us, including the royals, are perfect. We are human and we have faults. Surely part of being self aware is that we all, including ourselves, have faults. Being adult means accepting this basic fact, and not throwing out blame all the time. I speak from experience as I had a difficult adolescence and have struggled with ‘blame’ all my life, but nonetheless I do love my mother, who caused the difficulties. I try to do my best for her now she’s very old. I’m not a therapist but I wonder if Harry would be happier if he ceased going over and over old wounds, or else they never heal.
It concerns me that it has been reported, if it’s true, that Harry said he didn’t know he was angry till Meghan told him he was. If this is true, it indicates that Meghan is encouraging him to pick at his past, which is like picking a scab, it will never heal.
Just my opinion.

Lucca everyone has faults but for some it’s everyone has faults with the exception of Diana

Apologies Lucca and Galaxy.

Well that’s good Annie, but I have to say your posts have given the impression you were dry much anti .
I have never said she was without fault either, but nor are any of them, Charles included.

Lucca yes I think she was a loving mother. I am not anti Diana, I do not accept the ‘everyone was to blame but Diana was perfect’ claims