There is nothing in her posts that says she feels that way - just that it is not fair to make some people pay and others not. And IMO, that is a reasonable point of view.
Hmmm! But that's strange because I read a post on GN claiming that life isn't fair and there can be no such thing as fairness.
But the two things are not connected - you're doing it again! I assume that Jillybird made the post about fairness? Again, Jillybird, sorry to speak about you as though you aren't here, and again, you can, of course, come along and correct me if I am wrong, but it is perfectly possible to say that life isn't fair, yet wish it were. Just because life isn't fair doesn't make it ok to make it more unfair to more people.
growstuff, your friend was buying her own house at one point. She must, at least at that point, have been in favour of home ownership, and understood its attendant advantages, not least of which is that by paying a mortgage you are accruing an asset and securing the ability to live rent-free in older age, which is exactly why most people do it. I can understand her being disappointed that that didn't work out for her (and FWIW I don't see her as feckless at all), but if her disappointment were to lead her to wish to remove all access to inheritance to others, and to feel that pensioners should live on very low incomes in a race to the bottom against UC claimants, I would sincerely wish that she learned to deal with her disappointment in case it became bitterness that coloured her view of life and made her unhappy.
Did you ever ask her what she had planned to do with the house she was buying if she didn't plan to leave it to her own children?