Grandtante, you are right, of course, in theory, but the reality is often different. We have read posts on here from women planning on leaving their spouse or partner, and we always advise financial planning and 'getting your ducks in a row', but; making a break for it when your partner is at work or asleep, with just the clothes you and your children stand up in is more often the case, and if the woman is in a refuge, she is unlikely to pop back to the family home to pick out the best duvet. We have a local charity which posts requests on FB, very often a family who have left a DV situation, have been given a new home, but have literally nothing. People are generous, giving beds, cookers, washing machines.