Norah
DaisyAnne
JaneJudge
Quite a few of the threads on here the last few days remind me of this
9gag.com/gag/aPD9x7K
That is excellent Jane but sadly, very true.
Nothing there pertains to me. My husband worked very very hard, sometimes two jobs. We save. Neither of us have any education or special connection. We pay our taxes. I'm content with our life, our family, our savings, our giving.
Not all advantages are immediately obvious. Benefits are portrayed as handouts, yet there are other forms of subsidy that are not portrayed as such, and people sometimes even feel smug about receiving them. You mention that your husband worked very hard. What about you? If you didn't work you were subsidised by the taxpayer, which is something that only those who can afford it can do - most lower paid families have two people contributing to the public purse. I'm not for a moment suggesting that your husband didn't pay tax, but they will have been his financial contribution to society, and (if it is the case that you didn't work) it will not have covered yours, or paid for your education, healthcare, pension etc, or your use of any of the public services available to all but paid for out of common funds.
Having one stay at home partner is a massive 'leg up' for a couple, as it means no childcare fees, no need for a cleaner, one lot of commuting etc, and it is subsidised by dual income couples. There are even tax breaks available for people to do this, but couples who claim other benefits (eg UC) are denied those breaks and one person's income is offset against the other's.
If you did work and the above doesn't apply to you, it does apply to a lot of couples, many of whom would be appalled to be considered the recipients of state benefits, when that is exactly what they are, even though they don't have to go through the humiliation of justifying their claims. I'm not saying that it is wrong that this option is available, but I am saying that those who choose it are in no position to make comments about others who don't work but rely on the safety net provided by the NHS, subsidised pension contributions etc.