The last time I wore a red poppy was in 1995, the year after my father died. If I remember correctly, that was supposed to be the last time we commemorated the second world war and plans had been made to do things differently with more emphasis on the future and less looking back. But the Royal British Legion objected to being sidelined and insisted we carry on with the standard bearing processions.
What you have got to remember is that poppy day isn't a national day of commemoration as much as a fund-raising event for a charity.
I too am very ambivalent and object to people saying "we must remember" because in some respects remembering the sacrifice hasn't done us much good. If we'd learned the lessons that we should have done, we would never have gone into Iraq or Afghanistan. And we certainly wouldn't have been so ready to give up the freedoms others had died for because we were scared of catching a cold.