Well, you might think that everyone is considered and willing to read one another’s views on N&P, but I don’t see it that way, I’m afraid. You are willing to say that people are ‘infantile’, ‘just wrong’, biased’ etc because they don’t agree with your view. That’s not very balanced, by anyone’s standards.
I was told that I must think that SAHPs are scrounges, tax dodgers, undeserving and that I see myself as a first class citizen because I posted my view, (which had, incidentally, already been expressed by another poster who wasn’t subjected to any of that). A balanced view, or shutting down a contrary one?
On another thread (not your fault, I know) I was told last night not to bother replying because the poster wouldn’t engage with me and/or one other poster - thus, effectively locking us out of the thread and refusing either of us a right of reply.
People regularly say that they don’t read the thread - it’s one of my pet hates on here, and is not tolerated on other discussion boards I use, but it is a cultural thing, I suppose. It happens a lot on here, in every forum.
It seems to me that some opinions are allowed, if they chime with those of posters who don’t like different ones, but anyone saying something different is often rudely shut down. I don’t lose sleep about any of it, but I am starting to realise why people so often say that they don’t dare to venture into N&P. I always thought that was a strange attitude, but I can see why those less used to the sort of thing I’ve mentioned might be put off, and it’s a shame, as it stifles debate.
People are not all as articulate as others - some express opinions easily and eloquently and others not so much. Some can back up arguments with a few clicks, and others have never been shown how. I am not referencing anyone in particular here, on this or other threads- it is a general observation. That doesn’t mean that only the former should be heard though, particularly on a thread when there are those saying that they left school at 14.
Believe it or not, I do know how the tax and NI systems work. I also understand the ‘No personal pot’ aspect of the State Pension system. My views about contributing take that into account, and I have explained that I understand why people might be triggered by them, as I am by comments about greedy entitled pensioners. We all have buttons that can be pressed, and mine is that I have a fear of being unable to support myself. I have tried to do so throughout my life, but as I approach pension age the goalposts keep shifting (apparently as there are now more people claiming for longer) and I am very aware that there are those who resent anyone with more than a basic income.
Meanwhile there are those who have never made financial contributions saying that they didn’t ‘farm out’ their children, and that they are also entitled to express that opinion. My view (and that is all it is) is that if only those who did pay in were able to get out, we would have more of the security be thought we were working towards. Biased? Maybe. But it doesn’t mean that I ‘look down’ on anyone, or see myself as ‘better’, and it’s no more biased than ‘I wouldn’t have had children if I hadn’t had someone else to support them’. I know I am mixing threads, but these things are intertwined. Viewpoints don’t sit neatly in separate boxes.