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Minimum age for marriage is now 18

(42 Posts)
Riverwalk Tue 14-Mar-23 13:13:08

I support this change.

That said, one of my brother's married at 17 (16 year old girlfriend was pregnant) they've been happily together for 55 years.

He is is the only one of the five of us to have had this longevity!

Norah Tue 14-Mar-23 12:48:13

Grantanow

Those who got married at 16 and are now celebrating their golden, silver., etc., anniversaries might want to breath a sigh of relief!

Indeed.

Married over 60 yrs ago at age 16. smile

No living together first.

NotTooOld Tue 14-Mar-23 11:30:15

Definitely a good move but 18 is still too young to marry. I married in my teens and was far too young, as was my husband. In those days no-one lived together before they got married, so marrying was the only way to be together. We divorced eventually and I met my lovely second DH, so all turned out well for me in the end. How much more sensible to give living together a try before marrying. Doesn't always work out, of course. I know a couple who were together for several years before marrying and split one year after the wedding. There are no guarantees!

Grantanow Tue 14-Mar-23 11:19:50

Those who got married at 16 and are now celebrating their golden, silver., etc., anniversaries might want to breath a sigh of relief!

Wyllow3 Tue 14-Mar-23 00:31:00

I think it's very valuable to make very early marriages clearly illegal in the UK.
I don't really see the point in getting married/civil partnerships until children come along or if you've tried living together first tho.

Callistemon21 Mon 13-Mar-23 23:01:51

One size doesn't fit all !

I will agree with that statement but think this is a sensible move. Does this just apply in England?

Aren't pupils supposed to stay in education or training until 18?

paddyann54 Mon 13-Mar-23 22:37:01

I know several couples who married young 18 or younger and they have all had long happy marriages ,mind you the mortality age in some parts of Scotland is only 50 something so maybe they want to just get on with living .My OH was a month past his 20 th birthday whe we got married ,exactly a year after we met ,we've been married 48 years.
Not all young marriages fail just like all the one who marry later.In fact I know more people who split after living together for 10 years or more before marrying and they divorce within months .
One size doesn't fit all !

MiniMoon Mon 13-Mar-23 22:07:20

I was proposed to at 17. I had enough sense to say no. I had an awful lot of living to do before I got married. He eventually moved away and we didn't keep in touch. Even at 18 I wouldn't have been ready to marry anyone.
I think it is a good move. A person is not considered an adult until 18.

veejay Mon 13-Mar-23 21:53:37

I married at 17 ,biggest mistake of my life
People didn't live together then before marriage.if they could .I wouldn't have married .I realised my mistake after about 6 months

Norah Tue 28-Feb-23 14:33:03

Iam64

I’m pleased with this change . It’s unlikely to stop all early marriages but sends a clear messages to those communities who see 13 as old enough to marry their girls off thst legally this isn’t allowed here

The change surely sends the clear message you note.

For myself, I'm delighted we married at 16, but suppose we could have happily married the day I turned 18 - no point really.

FannyCornforth Tue 28-Feb-23 10:25:50

Here it is
www.gransnet.com/forums/chat/1321662-Legal-marriage-age

Smileless2012 Tue 28-Feb-23 09:36:27

Passed me by too Whitewavemark. I think it's a good thing but as you say the majority live together before getting married, and seem to be older now too.

foxie48 Tue 28-Feb-23 09:34:27

Oh thanks, I hadn't noticed it!

Jaxjacky Tue 28-Feb-23 09:33:04

FYI, there’s an existing thread on this in chat.

Whitewavemark2 Tue 28-Feb-23 09:29:41

Blimey that one passed me by entirely.

Mind you, don’t most people simply set up shop together now before they eventually marry, and presumably parents have no say over that.

So I guess it may be sending a message to those communities that see marriage as the be all and end all for women, but not entirely sure it will work.

But in principle I am for it. But teenagers always know best☺️

Iam64 Tue 28-Feb-23 09:22:32

I’m pleased with this change . It’s unlikely to stop all early marriages but sends a clear messages to those communities who see 13 as old enough to marry their girls off thst legally this isn’t allowed here

foxie48 Tue 28-Feb-23 09:16:53

The Marriage and Civil Partnership (Minimum Age) Act 2022, which gained Royal Assent in April last year, has come into force today (27 February). It means that 16 and 17 year olds will no longer be allowed to marry or enter a civil partnership, even if they have parental consent.
Whereas in Scotland there has been consultation on reducing the age when you can legally change your sex from 18 to 16.
What age do you think we should recognise that someone is mature enough to make like changing choices like marriage etc?
I'm of the opinion that 18 is the absolute minimum age and even at 18 I didn't have enough experience of life to make well thought out decisions. What do others think?