Steelygran
mabon1
People I know are living on benefits, they can afford things I am unable to buy as I am a pensioner, a wrong.
I can sympathise with how you feel as a pensioner, but what a lot of people don't realise when they see people on benefits buying the odd treat such as coffee out or having their nails done, is that this is all they have. They usually don't have any security, or money to save for emergencies. It's a very different, insecure way of living.
Of course there are still quite a few people around who think that if you're on benefits you should have absolutely nothing.
Many years ago now a young single mother - I didn't know her, but my late mother did - with learning difficulties, understood (with the help of my mother) how to budget and be very frugal with her spending.
She would, for example, eat sardines on toast with a fresh tomato, and home-baked rice pudding (batch-cooked probably) for dinner. Went to play groups with her toddler, the park, etc - bought or was given, second hand clothes.
Anyway, she actually managed to save money which she put towards Christmas. No idea what she bought, but I believe it was a couple of presents or something for her child.
I can imagine what would've been said about her if, knowing she was 'on benefits' (she did work, spasmodically) they'd seen her buying Christmas presents! Eh!
Back in the day, when personal phones were just being developed from the huge brick-like contraptions into smaller hand held ones - someone gave her one of them, probably the equivalent of today's smart phones. It was thought she needed it to keep in touch with family and friends (and my mother). I can well imagine what would have been said about that.
She could be quite erratic in her behaviour (a medical condition brought on by earlier hydrocephalus) and might well have appeared feckless to some.
I knew about her because my mother took her under her wing - they were both members of a local church social group.
My point is, no-one really knows another person's circumstances - you only 'know' what you see. And that's not the whole picture.
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