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Babs03 Tue 12-Nov-24 07:53:36

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Personally am glad that this bill will be considered and hopefully assisted dying will be offered to people who are terminally ill and want to die with dignity rather than in agony and with no way out, with loved ones having to watch their struggle and only have memories of this for a long time instead of the person the deceased once was. The choice should be there in a civilised society.

Lizzie44 Wed 13-Nov-24 15:13:09

I strongly hope this bill is passed. I hope too that more time and money will be spent on hospices and palliative care. I understand the concerns of those who oppose it but it seems unfair that their opposition to assisted dying rules it out for everyone. There should be choice on both sides of the argument.
A bad death is not only intolerable for the patient but also for their families who witness it. The harrowing memories it leaves make the process of grieving slower and more difficult.

Rosie51 Wed 13-Nov-24 15:09:45

IOMGran

Rosie51

Just a thought, and an absolutely horrific one at that. All those in favour of this bill whereby an adult in such pain or distress could opt to end their life, any thoughts on why children and adolescents should have to suffer in a way you don't want for adults? And what about those with advanced dementia who don't have capacity, are you OK with their suffering until death?
This bill worries me. If passed the criteria will get diluted, it's inevitable. The abortion act was very stringent at first, it's a whole lot less so now.

So Rosie are you aware that his bill is based on the one used by Oregon, which was passed in 1997 and has remained in the original scope since then?

Just because the Oregon one has never changed that is no guarantee this one wouldn't is it? It would be very naive to think that the one would absolutely determine the other.

What do you say to the rest of my post about children, adolescents and those without capacity?

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 15:08:54

GrannyGravy13

^Respectfully if you have not seen the limits of palliative care you should refrain from opining^

IOMGran Respectfully if you had read my post in its entirety you would have see that I said I can only speak from a point of personal experience

My experiences are just as valid as any others on this forum, I wouldn’t dream of telling anyone how to opine

Maybe reading other people's experiences might make you reflect that you were lucky.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 13-Nov-24 15:07:47

MissAdventure (((hugs))) 🌸

GrannyGravy13 Wed 13-Nov-24 15:06:57

Respectfully if you have not seen the limits of palliative care you should refrain from opining

IOMGran Respectfully if you had read my post in its entirety you would have see that I said I can only speak from a point of personal experience

My experiences are just as valid as any others on this forum, I wouldn’t dream of telling anyone how to opine

MissAdventure Wed 13-Nov-24 14:56:44

My daughter was in Southend hospital, with cancer in her brain, skull, spine, pelvis, arms, legs
, ovaries, lungs.

For the first time then, she was treated well, and listened to.

Plus she was determined by then that she would be made comfortable, having suffered awfully in the years before.

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 14:53:40

Rosie51

Just a thought, and an absolutely horrific one at that. All those in favour of this bill whereby an adult in such pain or distress could opt to end their life, any thoughts on why children and adolescents should have to suffer in a way you don't want for adults? And what about those with advanced dementia who don't have capacity, are you OK with their suffering until death?
This bill worries me. If passed the criteria will get diluted, it's inevitable. The abortion act was very stringent at first, it's a whole lot less so now.

So Rosie are you aware that his bill is based on the one used by Oregon, which was passed in 1997 and has remained in the original scope since then?

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 14:52:20

MissAdventure

My daughter's pain was well managed, and when there was an upset with staff tuning down her oxygen, with nurses saying "she wasn't allowed" to turn it back up, her oncologist shrugged and said he was fine with her having what she needed.

She was also riddled with cancer.

You and she were lucky with where the cancer was and the medical care. My mum was in a hospice with a doctor who was a palliative care doctor. In Southend. It was a hellish experience for her and for us who loved her to watch without being able o help. I had PTSD for a long time afterwards with flash backs and depression. I never want to go through this myself or have my daughters traumatised the way I was. Sometimes there is not enough legal morphine to do the job.

keepingquiet Wed 13-Nov-24 14:52:09

catd

I have campaigned for this Bill for seven years and will be outside the HofP on 29th with my placard. I agree on safeguards but this Bill does not go far enough. It's about an individuals right to choose. If you want to continue living it's your choice. In an ideal world there would be brilliant palliative care but currently there isn't. I will hasten my death as soon as I feel my quality of life has gone. It is my right to choose

I think this is what frightens me.

I may seem insensitive with my words to some, but trust me I worked with the sick and dying for more than twenty years. I have also had several of my relatives die, sometimes at a very young age.

To be honest I'm rather tired of being labelled as cruel and insensitive because I see a different side to these arguments- that I seem to support something that is cruel and undignified and therefore I must be accused, like so many hard working carers and medical professionals, that if you refuse to 'kill' someone you are a horrible nasty person and of course, the religious ones are the worst.

It worries me that I may have to fight for my own life at some point in the future.

But again, this isn't really about me- or you (although there are people who would rather die than concede it isn't all about 'them and their choice')

It is about what sort of society we want to be- one which cares for its most vulnerable, or one that doesn't.

MissAdventure Wed 13-Nov-24 14:48:01

My daughter's pain was well managed, and when there was an upset with staff tuning down her oxygen, with nurses saying "she wasn't allowed" to turn it back up, her oncologist shrugged and said he was fine with her having what she needed.

She was also riddled with cancer.

Rosie51 Wed 13-Nov-24 14:46:31

Just a thought, and an absolutely horrific one at that. All those in favour of this bill whereby an adult in such pain or distress could opt to end their life, any thoughts on why children and adolescents should have to suffer in a way you don't want for adults? And what about those with advanced dementia who don't have capacity, are you OK with their suffering until death?
This bill worries me. If passed the criteria will get diluted, it's inevitable. The abortion act was very stringent at first, it's a whole lot less so now.

rocketship Wed 13-Nov-24 14:42:01

We have Medical Assistance In Dying [MAID] in Canada. It is extremely well regulated and a huge relief & blessing for many who are terminally ill.

Very many of us are now advocating for advanced consent. This is especially close to the hearts of those facing mental decline due to dementia/Alzheimer's since with MAID final consent much be given immediately before the procedure. Many do not relish the idea of languishing in a care bed until their bodies finally give out..... the ultimate indignity.

If you don't want assistance in dying.... fine, but please don't stop those who do want it. [flower]

By the way.... I have heard some say that they want to die a 'natural death'. If they are having life saving surgeries or taking medications to prolong their lives, how is that natural~~

knspol Wed 13-Nov-24 14:37:00

I fervently hope the bill is passed. I haven't read the 47 pages and I doubt anybody on here has. There may be things in it that need tweaking but imo it's the first step in a route to assist terminally ill people and their families IF they wish to take advantage of it.

Macadia Wed 13-Nov-24 14:34:59

So if a child is at end of life and suffering can their parents make that choice since they make choices for the child on everything else? If no, then can the child make the choice themselves? If no, then this would not be fair to all citizens, only elderly.

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 14:32:48

MissAdventure

As far as I know, an incidental shortening of life due to painkillers isn't illegal.
I may be wrong though, because I usually am lately.

I am afraid you are wrong. It only takes one person to report a possible overdose and all hell breaks loose. And there is always that person. So doctors are unable to exercise the compassion for suffering that many of them would want to. The doctor who was in charge of prescribing my mums morphine was also more concerned about his soul than her suffering, he was a 'Christian'. So she was left to moan and scream in pain, suspended above her bed in a mesh contraption that was supposed to spread the pressure as she had cancer in her whole back and pelvis by then. And it was intractable pain. I have heard of palliative care severing the spinal chord in cases like this in the past few years. I personally would prefer to just cut the whole process short and depart a bit earlier. And reading the above I am so glad I am not a Muslim!

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 14:20:09

theworriedwell

Has any country introduced this type of law and it hasn't changed over time with the safeguards being weakened.

Yes Oregon has, not been extended or amended since 1997. Our law is being based on this one.

ginnycomelately Wed 13-Nov-24 14:14:37

I have been privileged to be with many people including children at the end of their lives , as a nurse , I feel strongly that this should only be a decision reached by the patient, and no one else , No one should die in agony but many do , Doctors are terrified of litigiousness families, and are therefore not prepared to give really effective pain relief , even more frightening is the fact that few medical practitioners are aufait with end of life care , . There are definitely not enough hospice places , , So I definitely want to be able to choose my end Thankyou and not have my family prosecuted , Listen to all the above gransnetters who’ve been there with their loved ones

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 14:11:17

B9exchange

There are observations you can do, observing heart rate, breathing patterns etc.

What's the point of prolonging death is they're so bad they are unconscious and will never wake, if they are lucky?

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 14:07:12

MissAdventure

The concoction needed is 3/4 of a pint of very caustic fluids, which need to be taken quickly, I saw yesterday.

It's important that people also know the facts regarding this, so that they don't imagine floating gently away.

That is is simply untrue. We have access to barbiturates that would be used. The US and by extension Canada is withheld these drugs as they can be used for executions as they have capital punishment. This is a lie put about by the people who do not want us to have choice for heir own religious reasons.

MissAdventure Wed 13-Nov-24 14:04:18

I hadn't even thought of that.

missdeke Wed 13-Nov-24 13:59:44

Less than 6 months to live, 2 independent doctors and a high court judge? We all know how slow the wheels of justice turn, the whole bill is pointless as more than likely the candidates will have died before it gets to the yes/no verdict.

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 13:59:28

Rosie51

While I understand the feelings behind those who fully support this bill, does it not concern you, even a teeny tiny bit, that some people may be pressured, coerced, or just feel they are such a burden, into taking this route?
From what I understand the patient is going to have to be able to administer the lethal dose to themself, so not respite from suffering for those physically unable to do so.
Canada is indeed a very worrying example. The numbers applying, or being offered MAID, is increasing at an alarming rate.

Our law is based on the Oregon law, which is in the US and has been running since 1997 with no scope creep. We are not following the Canadian model.

MissAdventure Wed 13-Nov-24 13:58:06

As far as I know, an incidental shortening of life due to painkillers isn't illegal.
I may be wrong though, because I usually am lately.

Dickens Wed 13-Nov-24 13:56:36

It isn't a perfect system but we don't live in a perfect world, despite people thinking that you can somehow make death a kind of 'perfect' experience by handing them a pill.

keepingquiet

Is that how you interpret the wishes of those who've campaigned for this bill - some of whom are suffering from terminal diagnoses of diseases which they are fully aware can end in intractable pain (it's a fallacy to believe that all pain can be controlled) or, in some instances, with complete loss of muscle-control which renders them unable to swallow their own saliva and likely to choke on it? Can you not imagine the anxiety these thoughts can cause?

I'm on the fence on this matter, but I really don't think people who support this bill are looking for the 'perfect' death experience by popping a pill.

In fact, I think your final paragraph verges on being rather insensitive.

IOMGran Wed 13-Nov-24 13:56:23

Cabowich

I hope that it gets through too - it's something I believe in very strongly.

Whether people want to go through the agony of dying of something like cancer should be down to personal choice. Having a low pain threshold, I certainly don't want to suffer like that and I would very much resent being told I had to because of misguided do-gooders.

There's a good headline on the BBC news website ATM. It's about shortening the death process, not ending life (as the people it concerns are dying anyway).

Cabowich I agree with you 100%.