But this is the dismissal that I mean Babs, there in your post.
People, women and young girls mostly, speaking of harassment and and fear and of having their lives curtailed because of that harassment and other people, including yourself I’m afraid, dismissing it a “a racist trope”.
In other words, untrue.
The OP asked what have we come to. I remember back in the sixties also when women were afraid to report sexual crimes because they were told they must have deserved it and would be blamed themselves.
Now women, amongst themselves, are speaking of harassment but do not report it because they will be called racist and blamed for intolerance.
They become cast as the troublemakers not the men who abused them.
If people really want a harmonious society we must listen to everyone’s experiences.