When I send a small or even large gift to a new baby it is to share and celebrate, I put my email address, if they don’t have it, on the inside of the card. Most times I receive a thank you text. However I remember struggling after a difficult caesarian section and looking after a premature baby forcing myself to write thank you notes and looking back I should have been caring for baby and myself instead of trying to reply within two days so I am more forgiving now. However the one kind of unacknowledged thank you that has me grinding my teeth is when money has been requested for a wedding gift, when not receiving an invitation, which I know has two sides to it. No point in receiving six kettles but the whole point of wedding presents used to be to help couples set up home, whereas nowadays, quite often both have good jobs and have been set up in their home, often with children for several years. I give very generously to youngsters who have for example just finished studying. However I still feel guilty that I have not given to a friend’s son on his remarriage. I have only met him once but his mum reminded me several times how generous everyone was being, contributing to their honeymoon in a very exotic location. I have given wedding gifts to all my daughter’s friends and without exception have had lovely thank you cards. They then get baby presents when the time comes and I usually have a lovely morning choosing something to send and I include the gift receipt to be practical. Times change.