I didn’t really envisage what my future would be like, I was young when I met DH, he wasn’t from our village ( most of my old school friends married their school mates and are still living there ) so I moved away, in the days of no car, telephone or away from a bus route it was quite isolating, and we lived in a local authority Tower Block until the children went to school.
But he turned out to be a ‘high flyer’ and then was away a lot for work, he lived in London for 2 years and only came home at weekends, at that time I didn’t drive, so i looked after the house , children, pets etc.used the buses but by then we had moved close to my family, so I had some moral support which was important to me.
We’ve had a good life, nice homes, holidays etc.but ill health in our children and GCs has been a real worry, and now we are older our own health isnt so good, apart from that we have kept our noses down and worked hard, DH has now retired and regrets the years that he spent away from family working.
But he did what he felt he had to do to keep us all.
Obviously I would change some bits, but we are still happy after 52 years, so I think we made mostly good choices (plus some pretty stupid ones) can’t change history so we just get on with it.
The ACs tell us that they had a great childhood and DD1 is doing all she can to bring her kids up as she was raised , so that’s a positive.