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soontobe Sun 02-Aug-15 09:13:41

I apologise for pointing them in the direction of this thread.

But since this forum is so small, and your comments on this thread were highly relevant to what you were writing on the other one, I didnt think that it would matter.

Obviously it does to you, so I am sorry for doing that, and will try to remember not to do it again.

rosesarered Sun 02-Aug-15 09:03:24

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rosesarered Sun 02-Aug-15 09:01:50

Other people have their opinions, you you, Soontobe just try and stir all the time, pathetic.

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Gracesgran Sun 02-Aug-15 08:58:26

I don't see the problem. The word was not used on the pedants thread but a discussion thread. Of course there are many ways to use it, e.g., I, personally, found the word offensive and I was also offended that the leader of my country, who acts on my behalf, used it when speaking for the country.

soontobe Sun 02-Aug-15 08:23:34

Wow

Feeling empathy is now being saintlike.
And a person who feels empathy is now sensitive.

And it is not hard to spot that those who think like this are very pro the conservative way of thinking.

It is opening my eyes I have to say.

rosesarered Sun 02-Aug-15 07:54:10

You are exactly right Elegran, we can only feel offended by remarks to ourselves and not words or actions to others.The new cult of being offended
Is PC gone barmy.It seems to confer some kind of sainthood on those people who feel offended by this, that and the other, they are sensitive souls who 'feel' the pain of others.Totally ridiculous .

Elegran Sat 01-Aug-15 23:22:07

You put it succintly, trisher

AshTree Sat 01-Aug-15 16:38:55

Exactly trisher, couldn't put it better smile

trisher Sat 01-Aug-15 16:09:32

It is of course lazy use of the English language. I am offended by something that is said to, or about,me. I find offensive any other remarks.

soontobe Sat 01-Aug-15 15:37:03

* even when the person referred to doesn't see anything at all to take offence at.*

Says who though?

You cant speak on behalf of a group of people you neither know and who have got better things to do right at this moment in time.

You also cannot 100% vouch for someones' inner thoughts generally, either, when it comes to the person who may be doing the insulting.

So people have to do what they think is best. And watch out for other people to the best of their ability.

You cant conclude that no insult was meant and none taken, unless you are the one doing the possible insulting, and you know the people who may have been insulted.

Elegran Sat 01-Aug-15 15:18:46

Is it just me or has there been a change lately in "being offended" ? It has always seemed to me that you were offended if someone implied that you had some defect or other. If they said it about someone else, but your own part in the fault wasn't included, you could be very annoyed about it, but you were not offended. That was reserved for a personal slight to you. That is, the offense had been committed against the person offended.

Now people get offended on other people's behalf even when the person referred to doesn't see anything at all to take offence at. Surely it is highly presumptive and interfering to get into a tizz when no insult was meant and none taken? Rather like making someone else's decisions for them - "Does he take sugar?"