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Can I get?

(170 Posts)
Toddleo Thu 16-Aug-18 16:28:25

I am really irritated by this modern way of asking for things.
In a cafe for example "can I get a large latte" "can I get a toasted sandwich"
I just want to scream "NO YOU CAN'T, because you are not allowed in the kitchen/behind the counter etc...."

What is wrong with "please may I have...." Grrrr

Rufus2 Sun 19-Aug-18 11:05:51

I get" is tantamount to "I want" and as we all know 'I want never gets!"
How do we respond to shop assistants etc. who enquire "What can I get you?" confused

SiobhanSharpe Sun 19-Aug-18 10:57:43

To those who say it's perfectly polite in the US I would reply that it's not perfectly polite here -- it comes across as abrupt and bordering on rude, especially as there is often no accompanying 'please' in the sentence.
While I accept that we are losing , or have already lost 'please may I have' it's quite acceptable to say 'could I have' or even 'can I have' although that is strictly not grammatically correct as long as you say please somewhere in the sentence.
Oh, and BAGGS as this is Pedants' Corner the OED says it should be 'alright' or 'all right' although the latter is preferable. But definitely not 'allright'......

mabon1 Sun 19-Aug-18 10:50:09

Some people say "can I" when they really mean "May I".

grandtanteJE65 Sun 19-Aug-18 10:49:00

The point as I understood it from both OP and many others is that we were brought up to regard "Can I get?" as rude and were automatically told to say "May I have, please" Or in my father's words, "Well, you are physically capable of it, but if you are soliciting my permission, you mean May I, please"

And yes, my comment was ironic, as surely if you read Pedant's corner or anything else on Gransnet you don't expect everyone to see things exactly as you do.

harrigran Sun 19-Aug-18 10:44:05

'Yous' I can not let this pass, if someone says it to me I have to say something. Thirteen to sixteen years of education and some still can not speak properly, I despair.
All the young seem to raise their voices at the end of a sentence, I wait with bated breath for the next trend …. NOT.

MawBroon Sun 19-Aug-18 10:43:29

Do we all remember Blockbusters?
DD1 and a friend had an impressive three Gold Runs on that about 25 years ago and duly sniggered at “I think I’d like a P, Bob” grin
Innocent days!

Jalima1108 Sun 19-Aug-18 10:38:56

Don't go to Australia FarNorth! grin?

FarNorth Sun 19-Aug-18 10:37:54

the dreaded uptalk What is this?

Is it the questioning tone such as pollyperkins uses? Sorry, polly, but that sounds really annoying. Surely the person you're addressing can decide to respond without you giving them a verbal clue that they should do so.

Millie8 Sun 19-Aug-18 10:35:01

If I asked my Dad
"please can I have.... "
he'd say "you çan but may you"

anitamp1 Sun 19-Aug-18 10:34:56

Absolutely with you on this. I'm a regular watcher of Countdown and I cringe every time someone says 'can I get a ... Rachel'. Amazing how many people do say it. I want to scream at the TV.

MillieBear Sun 19-Aug-18 10:22:31

oldbatty very true! Rosina, yes it grates on me too. I think it's supposed to signify they're important people who are SO busy they can barely stop to eat. lovebeigecardigans1955 grin grin grin

FarNorth Sun 19-Aug-18 10:19:03

"Can I get........ (after it has been assembled and brought to me - understood)?

I'm comfortable with that!

MawBroon Sun 19-Aug-18 10:18:04

Perhaps we should start a new corner called "grammatical whinge corner
confused
Isn’t that what Pedants’ Corner is about?

grandMattie Sun 19-Aug-18 10:10:13

WARNING!!! Whinge coming! Don't like the way "crisp" has turned into "crsipy" etc...

Rosina Sun 19-Aug-18 10:00:46

Ooooh! Just seen your solution, lovebeigecardigans. Pass me a haddock! (Or perhaps I should 'grab ' a haddock)

oldbatty Sun 19-Aug-18 09:59:41

grandmattie..... Oh yes please

Rosina Sun 19-Aug-18 09:59:31

I really dislike the tendency to 'grab' in advertising now; 'Go grab a coffee, 'Grab some lunch' - it sounds rough and 'push others out of the way' Is it just me?

grandMattie Sun 19-Aug-18 09:57:49

Perhaps we should start a new corner called "grammatical whinge corner"

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sun 19-Aug-18 09:27:56

Yet another Americanism. I hate it too, also 'around' as in I like to be/have a problem 'around' whatever - it should be 'with.'
We need something like a wet fish to give offenders a slap around the chops when we're annoyed.

Sam1965 Sun 19-Aug-18 09:20:32

Agreed

Jalima1108 Sat 18-Aug-18 21:09:37

Woof!

Baggs Sat 18-Aug-18 19:57:28

Even dogs say it. Losing battle, folks.

Marmight Sat 18-Aug-18 17:23:30

I have 2 DDs who 'get'. One is now very Australian, the other is, well, a bit artyfartyhippy and also uses 'gotten' which I know is old English, but makes my teeth stand on edge. Her delightful offspring aged 6 & 8 always ask if they may please have. Not sure what happened after she left home.... confused

MissAdventure Sat 18-Aug-18 15:51:59

grin

pollyperkins Sat 18-Aug-18 15:48:47

Ha ha Old Batty