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Millie has cancer.

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nigglynellie Thu 27-Feb-14 10:25:08

Yesterday Millie our 11 year old cocker spaniel was diagnosed with a malignant growth in her bottom jaw! As you can imagine OH and I are extremely upset at this very unwelcomed news. The vet seems to think that Millie has about 6 months left before things get too much for her. I was wondering if any one else has had this problem and how they coped with it.

soop Tue 11-Mar-14 14:29:04

nigglynellie...you have loved Millie to the last. She was a lucky wee dog, and as I've no words to comfort you...may I send you a virtual hug. sunshine

MrsM Tue 11-Mar-14 14:21:22

nellie - be good to yourself today; you have looked after your baby just as you should. Good that you saw the awful tumour and now realise that you have saved her from discomfort and pain (and loss of dignity - I think our pets deserve that as well). An awful day but you have done A GOOD THING x

more flowers?

annodomini Tue 11-Mar-14 13:58:26

nellie, I know that feeling of grief mixed with relief. You will find one day that the happy memories will predominate. flowers

Dragonfly1 Tue 11-Mar-14 13:58:10

nellie (((hugs))) and flowers. I'll bet a lot if us know how you probably feel. X

Agus Tue 11-Mar-14 13:54:27

flowers

nigglynellie Tue 11-Mar-14 13:49:52

Well, Millie has gone. the vet came and was brilliant, so kind and caring. We have buried her in the garden and OH has planted some daffodils. I certainly shall miss that sweet little dog, BUT, when we were able to have proper look, that b l####y tumour was growing along her gum, and for certain it was going to be quite vile for her. Again thanks you to every one on this thread for your support and if any one ever wants any support from me - well I'm more than happy to help in any way I can.

whenim64 Tue 11-Mar-14 11:01:25

The vet will understand what you are going through this morning, nellie and if he thought for a moment that Millie was going to rise above this awful illness, he'd discuss it with you again. Allow the day to unfold, knowing you are all doing the best you can for her. Much love flowers

annodomini Tue 11-Mar-14 10:50:06

No, Nellie, it's not murder. You are doing this because you love her too much to let her suffer. x x x flowers

NfkDumpling Tue 11-Mar-14 10:38:37

Ooooh, so sorry, thinking of Scot and not concentrating, I meant hugs to you both and Millie.

NfkDumpling Tue 11-Mar-14 10:36:07

Years ago I remember our old cocker, Scot, blind as a bat, deaf and completely senile, who hadn't wandered more than a few paces for weeks, trotted off in front of us when we took him for a final walk on his last visit to the vet (vet refused to come to the house). It was only a few steps but heartbreaking.
You are doing the right and only thing. (((Hugs))) for you both and Nellie.

Agus Tue 11-Mar-14 10:22:00

Nellie. (((Hugs)))

nigglynellie Tue 11-Mar-14 10:18:19

I have to be honest I'm not doing awfully well, but the kindness on this thread has been overwhelming. Thank you all SO much. We are waiting for the vet (about midday). Millie has had a better morning than she has for ages, so that is good, I feel that I am about to murder her, but I have to be strong as I KNOW that any improvement can't last, and I would much rather her last morning was a happy one than one filled with pain and suffering. SO, on we go!

Ariadne Tue 11-Mar-14 09:23:42

How are you doing, nellie? Such a hard thing to do, and to be part of, and such a deep loss. flowers

NfkDumpling Tue 11-Mar-14 09:04:24

flowers

Deedaa Tue 11-Mar-14 09:03:06

DD and I are thinking of you this morning. We've both been there and know how heartbreaking it is flowers

MrsM Tue 11-Mar-14 08:57:12

more ((hugs)) and flowers

The decision was the hardest thing - honestly - tomorrow is another day

shysal Tue 11-Mar-14 08:33:11

flowers and (((hugs))).

DebnCreme Tue 11-Mar-14 08:19:06

(((hugs))) flowers

Dragonfly1 Tue 11-Mar-14 07:52:39

Thoughts are with you this morning. X

kittylester Tue 11-Mar-14 07:28:06

Thinking of you and Millie today nellie flowers

Soutra Mon 10-Mar-14 23:27:46

Thank you sunflower That brought tears to all our eyes I think - I can hardly see to type and am giving Grace a special hug. Oh Nellie my thoughts are with you and your lovely Millie xx

Deedaa Mon 10-Mar-14 21:29:48

Oh niggly I am so sorry! I hope it all goes peacefully, you know we are all thinking of you.

glassortwo Mon 10-Mar-14 19:25:50

niggly I cant say anything sad but I will be thinking of you tomorrow. {{{hugs}}}

nigglynellie Mon 10-Mar-14 16:13:30

Sunfowers, that is SO lovely, it bought tears to my eyes (again!) and thank you for sending it. Sentimental? maybe a bit, but I love it and shall copy it and it on my Millie file. Thankyou again.

sunflowersuffolk Mon 10-Mar-14 15:10:54

Very sorry for you Nellie - I went through it recently myself. You know you are doing the last loving thing you can for her, so she won't have to suffer, so she's lucky to have an owner like you. xx

Saw this on FB, a bit sentimental, but the thought is comforting.

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said " it's me."

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning
and say "good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.

Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.