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Getting a dog in retirement

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Retrolady Sat 06-Feb-16 19:59:27

Hi everyone, wonder if anyone has any thoughts ... I have recently sort-of retired - doing voluntary work and not claiming pension yet. The OH is nearly retirement age. He is wondering how he is going to fill his time when he does take the plunge and I wondered if anyone else has got a dog when they retired. He always had dogs until we married so has experience, albeit not recently. I don't have any experience and I was wary of dogs as a child - not a problem now. We both love walking and being outdoors and have often commented that a dog would be lovely on our walks. Of course, I realise there is a whole lot more to it than that - training etc.... and what about getting a rescue dog. We have a lovely RSPCA centre near us, so could visit and chat to the workers there. Over to Gransnetters - especially anyone who has rehomed a dog when they (the humans, I mean) are 60+ and active. Thanks.

Christinefrance Sat 09-Jul-16 22:29:51

Hi retrolady a dog is a wonderful companion in retirement, gives you a reason to get up in the morning and to go out for walks in all weathers. We have three dogs, two are rescue dogs and all three give us great pleasure. We did make a conscious decision that we would not holiday much or go away often. Kennel and vet fees need some thought before you decide.I think there are too many people breeding dogs at inflated prices whilst unwanted dogs languish in rescue centres. The staff in the centre will try to match the dog to you as far as possible.
Your home will be messy and your dog will be in charge but you will get such love and pleasure in return. Go for it.

rubylady Sun 10-Jul-16 04:10:23

Hi retrolady I have a little doggie, a Maltese/Yorkshire cross who is 7 years old. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, a constant companion and my best friend. She is with me if I am feeling unwell and accompanies me on journeys and holidays. I have just bought Philleas Dogg's Guide to Dog Friendly Holidays in Britain which has hotels, b & b's, pubs, gardens to visit etc with your dog. I have just got a car again after a break and now have a dog carrier seat for my doggie in the car to keep her safe and allow her to look out of the window. She has clothes (jumpers and coats mainly) and plenty of baskets, fluffy blankets and lots of toys. She is wonderful but it took me two years to look round and find the right dog. She was 6 weeks when I got her, she was tiny, only 12" long now. Just take your time, like others have said, make sure you don't buy from a puppy farm or anyone who may have bought from a puppy farm. See both parents, make sure the puppy has been with the family in the home and around children, handled lots and socialised well. Look on Pets4homes or, if you want a rescue dog, then decide on the breed and see if they do their own rescue society for the breed. Maybe an old or retired working dog?

Let us know what you decide and if you do get a loving new friend, please show us some pics. My doggie is on my profile. Take care. smile

Elizabeth1 Sun 10-Jul-16 06:56:59

Thanks millymouge will let my sister know about that. smile

breeze Sun 10-Jul-16 08:22:17

www.norwichterrierclub.co.uk/

breeze Sun 10-Jul-16 09:49:25

Apologies Elizabeth1. Found that for you but was called away before could offer an explanation. When I want a puppy I go to the breed society for the breed I want. They will usually have a 'litter coordinator' who will know which breeders have an upcoming litter. If your sister emails via the above link, someone should be able to help her, or put her name on a list to contact her when a litter from a responsible breeder comes up as close as possible to her area. Hope that helps.

downtoearth Sun 10-Jul-16 10:35:20

We had to have our 10year lab put to sleep in January we both said never again,because of how painful it is,the house has not felt right and gradually we thought how nice it would be to have another dog.Our lab was such a sweet girl and we wanted a dog of similar temperament,but not a lab again as she was so special nor a puppy to train,we have chosen a retired greyhound from the retired greyhound trust,we collected her yesterday and already it feels home again .The benefits are free exercise,companionship,and fun,I am a young 63 my partner much younger and at work all Day,although I have things I do and go to she sleeps whilst I am out after a good walk.Greyhounds only need 2x20 minute walks a day are docile, calm,gentle and fun,I would perhaps consider one of these as a pet.

Elizabeth1 Sun 10-Jul-16 18:41:37

Thank you breeze I've passed your advice on to my sister.

HildaW Sun 10-Jul-16 18:51:19

We have a dog....a 'Dogs Trust' rescue who gives us so much. Reason to get up, reason to go out, no matter what the weather, a welcome upon coming home....you get the drift.
I had not coped well with some nasty events and was referred by GP to some anxiety/depression counselling sessions .....one of the hints on how to cope were.......GET a Dog! I say no more.

vissos Sun 10-Jul-16 21:28:06

Puppies are lovely but such hard work! I volunteer for Oldies Club. All our dogs are 7 or older (so you might not have them long sad) but since they've been in foster homes, we know all their bad (and good!) habits and what kind of home they need. They always leave us in much better condition than when they came in. We also take them back if they ever need to come back. We recently took back a dog we rehomed 5 years ago as the owner could no longer look after him.
My girl is a (non-Oldies Club) rescue and I was lucky - she's the best behaved dog I've ever owned. From her behaviour she must have been abused in the past, she's very sensitive and timid and scared of 'doing wrong'. She waits for me to get up to go out - but I know if she needs to from her behaviour. I've had her coming upp to 4 years now, and she's about 15.
I would never buy a puppy, whatever the 'qualifications' of the breeder (tho I can see the appeal). Breeders are in it for the money, however 'good' they appear. How many questions do breeders ask of the people who buy their puppies? How many of them do a home check? Ask if they will have them back if necessary. Hundreds of homeless dogs are killed every week. Many because they had the wrong home in the first place.
Did you get a dog, @Retrolady?

rubylady Mon 11-Jul-16 07:54:45

vissos Not all people who sell puppies are in it for the money. My doggie was well under the price of other puppies the same as they said they just wanted good homes for their puppies to go to. They had both parents and the pups were very well loved, handled and cared for in the home. I often wish I had kept their number and then I could have thanked them more for the best loving gorgeous doggie I have owned by myself. (We had a previous dog but she was a family pet, not just mine.)

Plus I do hope that my dog at 7 years old has plenty of time to have fun yet.

breeze Mon 11-Jul-16 08:15:42

Vissos I beg to differ. I have rescued in the past. And you are quite correct, that it's a lovely thing to do and home checks are carried out. But you also have to be wary if you have young children (even as a grandparent you can have visiting very young children) that a dog whose background you do not know for sure may not be a good idea. And I have the scars on my face to prove it. I own two dogs now. Both from puppies from breeders recommended to me via breed societies. The first, almost 8 years ago, came from a breeder who only breeds when she wants another dog herself. She interrogated me to within an inch of my life, made me visit twice beforehand (which I would've done anyway), asked me lengthy questions about my previous dog ownership and made me sign a declaration that I wouldn't breed without her permission. One of her comments to me was 'If you are lying about not working, I'll find out'. The second, more recently, was also a well known working/show breeder and I had to sign a declaration to her, that if I should no longer be able to keep my dog, I had to return it to her. Both breeders have been available to me (even for the 8 year old!) via email/phone to answer any queries I have had. Anyone wanting a puppy, should NEVER buy from a pet shop, or puppy farm, or irresponsible breeder who does not do all of the above. But there is no harm in buying a puppy responsibly, first and foremost, researching the breed to ensure it's right for you and you have thought through very carefully if you can provide a good home for the dog. I do not rescue at the moment, as my grandchildren who are 3 and 5 live with me part time. My puppies have been trained by me. I have trained dogs as a hobby for years now, gundog and obedience and completed a dog behaviour course. Although they are never left together unattended, my dogs are very gentle with my grandchildren. I may well rescue again in the future but you have to be sure you have thought through both options.

millymouge Wed 13-Jul-16 16:15:06

[downtoearth] Just saw your post, how I agree with you. We have 2 greyhounds, our second and third, and wouldn't be without them. They are such easy dogs and some of them have hard working lives and then are just dumped. We enjoy walking and they are happy to go on long walks or short. If you have a dog not only are they great company and someone to talk to they get you out and you get to meet other people. Good for you both socially, health wise and mentally.

Peardrop Wed 31-Aug-16 10:59:02

Has anyone mentioned having a retired guide dog? They are beautifully mannered and so deserving of a comfortable retirement. Needless to say there is usually a waiting list but believe me they are worth the wait.

househens Sun 16-Oct-16 07:21:08

(Hi... new member)
I come from a rescue background and I have to say, we ADORE retirees. You are home a lot more, are generally more patient, usually quieter & gentler, more likely 2 shrug and laugh, more tolerant and more responsible...

The only worry, as for all of us, is worry of pet outliving you.

There are so MANY options for you. If U have a tight budget and the great unknown of vet bills or insurance costs worry, you can foster but you can short term foster or foster a permanent dog, through some rescues or the Cinnamon Trust

Foster homes are SO desperately needed, you CAN say I would prefer big or little dogs, puppies or middle aged dogs - OR cats. You can offer quarantine foster, if you have no other pets, so they can send you animals that have something that their species can catch, but people cannot. You can specialise in fostering, with experience, raising orphan kittens or puppies, sometimes bottle fed, sometimes eating OR take a pregnant bitch through her birthing & puppy raising and NO guilt at breeding when there aren't enough homes. (Exhausting , but often huge joys but occasional heartbreaks).

I have made the decision to have only own older dogs, as my health is poor & I have no partner, but I also rescue wild cats - mostly feral kittens, taming & then for rehoming.

You are SO needed as fosters, you can say, we ONLY want very quiet, old dogs and we want to travel through summer. Rescues will bend over backwards 2 keep you happy

I would also highly recommend the UK site OLDIES CLUB, which has dogs from all over the UK, needing permanent adoption, advertised mostly, by well established rescues, some RSPCAs etc and you can ask for dogs that are active, not active, cat friendly, very easy going etc

All are 7 years or over, so the puppy madness is long over EXCEPT in cases where a bonded pair has 1 dog over 7 and a younger loved companion. Once in a while, there is even a dog & cat bonded pair, needing home

If you have a very big heart, you can browse dogs with Special Needs

Traumatised, diabetic, needing injections, blind, deaf, occasionally wheelchair dogs AND there are BONDED PAIRS, dogs that ADORE each other and can't be parted. My long experience is Bonded Pairs settle faster, their shared joy you can see, often makes you tear up and you get so many extra AWWW moments/laughs, with Bonded Pairs and it really is only about 25% more work than one. Plus, they are happy together, when you go out. I know Oldies Club does occasionally offer permanent foster dogs, usually old, with medical conditions, but they pay the vet bills. Usually, you have to live nearish the vets the different rescues use.

I am ALWAYS happy to suggest dogs from contacts, if you want to adopt, if you tell me what sort of dog you are looking for... I don't need anything more than your city or county and description of what your dream dog sounds like. I can then suggest some dogs you might like to visit, in your area, or look at online & talk about with rescues

Rescues ARE the best way to go, rather than pounds/shelters, IF you don't want to take the chance of taking an unknown dog you barely know, after a couple of visits. NO KILL rescues use a lot of fosterers & try to get the dogs into loving homes with experienced people. They report honestly about the good & sometimes awkward problems a dog has, & often try to fix them, because they want the dog to be happy and THAT means you have to be happy & want to keep it and not want to return it. Often fosterers have cats as well, so you can SEE, when you visit, that the dog IS great with cats! HOWEVER, if there IS a problem, and you go through a NO KILL rescue, they will always take the animal back, IF something goes wrong and the BIG thing is that you know it will still be safe, still find the perfect human some day. Go through a KILL centre & take it back & you could be returning it to a death sentence

By the way, you can also foster until you fall in love with a dog. It's called FAILED FOSTER and it's bitter sweet for the rescue. They know the dog has lovely home BUT they lose a foster.

U can foster or adopt some heartbreaking dogs. Dumped 18 years old & blind etc and give them a loving family for their probable last year. It is heartbreaking, but your heart almost bursts to see them relax, to start to show personality, to see ancient, tottery cheeriness, EVEN cheekiness & SEE that they TRUST you.

That feeling is often too big for your chest and no 10,000 quid dog could EVER give you that feeling. It is fierce joy & self pride and tenderness & it is far more addictive than any drug, tho ends in tears, at some point - but that dog dies calm and happy, peaceful and loved and you take on another, in memory, of the beloved lost dog & see that slow blossom again.

One more thing I would genuinely advise. If U have a diabetic grandchild, one of the best things you can do is get a diabetic cat or dog. They will WANT to learn about the problem because they love the animal. They will absorb discipline, learn not to be slack, to watch for signs. They will never feel alone and not understood & sometimes a cry with grans or their own dog/cat, down the back garden, can ease worry and frustration, at not being understood & it all being so unfair

Sorry for the ramble. It's a subject close to my heart

househens Sun 16-Oct-16 07:41:39

PS sorry vissos I missed your ref to Oldies Club & since I'm doing a PS, I also had a rescue retired greyhound as one of my permanents (FABULOUS) but have personally rescued over 100 different dogs

Sometimes, the dog, the breed or mix, you NEVER thought would suit you, turns out to be the dog you never forget, always talk about, one of the standout dogs in your life.

Anya Sun 16-Oct-16 07:42:43

You've made me cry. The thought of anyone dumping an 18-year old blind dog especially.

My own dog is 14, only has one eye and is practically deaf, but he still has a good quality of life, a great appetite,,sense of smell and loves his walks....though we had to be careful he doesn't wander off and follow other people! He has his special buddy, our other dog, who's a a mere 13 and would pine if they were separated for any reason.

Good luck with your rehoming. You are obviously very passionate about this.

jenn Sun 16-Oct-16 18:45:27

Not having a dog in retirement has led me to put on half a stone in weeks!
I lost my two 16 year old dogs this summer and have decided to wait until next year before getting another but I never realised how my life would change without them.The early morning walk got me going for the day but now it's another cuppa with biscuits and I don't seem to get going at all.
Maybe it will be sooner than later for a new pal.

Rubydooby Sat 11-May-24 16:55:13

Like Regalo we've never been without a dog. We now have our 5th. I'm retired but OH still works
As long as you're committed 24/7, accept planning holidays, days out around your furry friend then go for it. We lasted 5 weeks between losing our 4th to getting the 5th, house was so quiet, no waggy tail greeting at the door, or curled up on the sofa. Just do lots of research, breeds, size, history if its a rescue. Remember though they live for years !

Georgesgran Sat 11-May-24 17:06:05

EIGHT YEAR OLD THREAD!!!

Witzend Sat 11-May-24 17:21:11

We love dogs, we’ve had them previously but we don’t any more, largely because TBH they are a tie - you can’t go out for the day, unless it’s somewhere you can take the dog, and you can’t go away at short notice unless it’s anywhere you can take it - or you have someone to dog-sit for a while. Which we never had, so it meant kennels, which are not only very expensive, but anywhere around here usually need to be booked well in advance.

Now and then we do look after a neighbour’s dog for a few days, and do enjoy having him for a while.

If none of those things are a problem, IMO it’s lovely to have a dog - they’re great company - and they do make you get out for walks even when the weather is pretty horrible!

aonk Sat 11-May-24 17:21:45

My lovely neighbour and her DH always had a dog even before retirement. Her DH became seriously ill and was being cared for at home. At this point the dog had to be put to sleep. Soon afterwards she got another dog, a puppy whose family could no longer cope with him. Then her DH died just over a year ago. The dog is wonderful company for her but he is boisterous and can be excitable. If I visit he undoes my shoelaces, chews on the hems of my trousers and clambers all over me if I sit down. As a result my neighbour can’t visit her family who live quite far away or invite people over. She ended up spending Christmas and New Year alone. I wouldn’t like to be in her position.

Patsy70 Sat 11-May-24 17:52:54

Georgesgran

EIGHT YEAR OLD THREAD!!!

Please everyone note that this thread is eight years old!!!

MayBee70 Sat 11-May-24 17:57:45

There’s some good advice in it, though, which applies to me now but wouldn’t have 8 years ago.

loopyloo Sun 12-May-24 09:18:39

Does it really matter how old a thread is?
If it's interesting people again now that's OK, is it not.

Oreo Sun 12-May-24 09:37:41

I agree, good advice is good advice no matter if it was given years ago.
Also good to hear both sides, the good and bad points of dog owning.