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Rescue cat upsetting my neighbour

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jacalpad Fri 02-Nov-18 17:22:37

I just wonder if anyone can offer any advice please. I have a nine year old rescue cat. We adopted him from a rescue centre just a year ago. We were told he was not getting on with another cat in the previous household, and there had been stress weeing and pooping in the house. He was very frightened, and had clearly been smacked at some time. We made him a den in a bedroom, as advised by the charity, and it took a couple of months before he would come downstairs with us. He has never wee’d or pooped in our house, other than in his litter tray. He now loves a fuss and a lap, but is quite nervous of change and noises. We love him to bits. But, he fights with other cats outside and is pooing on a neighbours lawn. She is furious and has been very verbally abusive to me about it. I know this is not nice for her, and have offered to clear up behind my cat - but she says she does not want me wandering around her garden. She does not have a pet, but is stirring up trouble about our cat fighting with other neighbours cats. This neighbour is known to be a bit odd and extreme about things, and I know she gossips and stirs things up. She knows everyone’s business. I am really upset by her latest tirade. The language was nasty, cruel and upsetting. I dearly love my cat, and want him to be happy. I don’t know what I can do. Has anyone any advise please?

Buffybee Fri 02-Nov-18 19:47:56

You have to admire their cocky strut, haven't you Jalima! ?

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:45:39

I've never had litter thrown into the front garden although I have had a couple of neighbours actually walking their dogs and letting them poo on our front garden shock
Only the once!
As for the foxes, the squirrels, they are just wildlife and don't have an owner.
As are the pigeons, the seagulls who also poo on the car.

Lynne59 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:44:20

Thanks, Sparklefizz. I adore my boy (he must be 14 or more now)

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:42:51

Our neighbour had three cats and DH used to refer to her as a 'neighbour's nightmare'.
However, she was lovely and her cats never strayed much into our garden. Goodness knows where all these cats who stalk through our garden come from, looking as if they own the place - they don't belong to near neighbours. One is a regular and walked into the house.

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Nov-18 19:42:33

She has offered to go and clean up after him. She may decide to have the netting put up. She is trying to think of solutions for a much-loved pet.

Yes, animals pooing in one's garden is annoying, whether that be cats, dogs, foxes or birds. So is litter chucked into one's front garden, so is the digging up of bulbs by neighbourhood squirrels, and many other things.

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Nov-18 19:39:55

Jalima, jacalpad says that her cat took 2 months of living upstairs before he became brave enough to venture downstairs, showed signs of having been smacked in the past, so is clearly a terrified rescue cat. I have adopted lovely cats like these myself in the past.

Her description makes it clear how anxious he has been, and spraying him with water will frighten him. It may be "kinder than what some other people would threaten", as you say ... does that make it a good idea?

After a sad little life, he has finally found a loving home.

janeainsworth Fri 02-Nov-18 19:34:54

jenpax I haven’t got a cat so have no idea.
Others have come up with what sound like good suggestions.

The point I was trying to make was that the neighbour’s nastiness or otherwise is an irrelevance.
The OP’s cat is pooping in her garden, which is annoying even to reasonable people like me, jalima and bluebelle.

So to be a good neighbour herself, the OP needs to deal with it.

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:32:20

I can't tell if a cat is anxious or not, sorry.

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:31:37

I haven't read all the thread blush

However, as we know, cats don't like water and may remember to keep away from that garden in future. It's not cruel and kinder than what some other people would threaten!

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Nov-18 19:31:21

Lovely cat photo Lynne59

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Nov-18 19:29:10

^personally wouldn't want my cat sprayed with a water pistol. It would scare her terribly,
That's the general idea Sparklefizz!^

Jalima I'm not stupid, I know that, and said as much to Buffy about 20 minutes ago who also wanted to point out the obvious if you read a few posts further back. I don't need it repeated, but I wouldn't want it done to my cat who is also a rescue cat and very timid. Sorry if I'm protective over my pet, but there you are! She can't get out of my garden so she is not guilty of offending.

Buffybee Fri 02-Nov-18 19:24:45

Well! As they say, you live and learn.
I stand corrected BlueBelle and cornergran!
Cats can and do poop on lawns!!
It was what I had always been told and I have no experience of cats pooing on lawns as I have two dogs.
That made me laugh about the electronic device with the cat doing it's business right in front of it.

Jalima1108 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:16:09

Bluebelle I wish they wore nappies grin

personally wouldn't want my cat sprayed with a water pistol. It would scare her terribly,
That's the general idea Sparklefizz!

But - it's not very nice to have a cat pooing in the middle of your lawn, on your plants, in your nice soft soil in the tubs, particularly if you have DGC visiting.

Lynne59 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:14:44

My Mr Cooper (he was feral for 7yrs or so, until I took him in 7yrs ago) at the top - and the 6-month-old kitten from next door, who loves him.

Lynne59 Fri 02-Nov-18 19:13:26

Your neighbour sounds a nasty old boot. What does she expect you to do? You've said you'd clean up after your cat, and that's more than most people would offer to do. I've had cats for 38 years, and my latest cat was feral, so had been used to being out and about. He goes off and does his business somewhere, despite having 2 clean trays in my house (he's never used them).

My cat who I'd had for 18 years (PTS April) used to poo on MY lawn and leave it...

Your cat has had a horrible life, and now that he's found you to be nice to him, he's in trouble with the neighbour. I don't agree with cats being kept indoors - they are meant to roam and explore. If someone lives on a main road, it's best not to have a cat at all.

Tell your miserable neighbour that she could perhaps squirt some water at your cat when he's in her garden. Other than that, there's nothing you can do.

Has your boy been neutered? He needs to be - although some cats (mine, occasionally) will still get into fights. Feliway had no effect at all on my cat.

Try feeding your cat at the same time each day. Mine is fed 3 or 4 times, always at the same time (give or take 20mins), so that his last meal is at about 10pm. He stays in all night - best in this weather, too.

cornergran Fri 02-Nov-18 19:06:16

budfybee there are many cats around us, several use the garden as a toilet. I assure you they can and do poo on the lawn. We chase them away when we see them doing it, doesn’t stop them.

MargaretX Fri 02-Nov-18 19:02:27

The netting sounds like a really good idea but usually house cats are cats which have never been let out and know nothing else.
All this fighting belongs to the establishent of a cats heirachy. If your cat is at the bottom of this heirachy then you have to help him defend his territory. Go out and shout at the other cat and eventually your cat will learn to defend his territory himself and the fighting will stop.
There is usually a boss cat in the area which could be quite large. You can tell them because they swagger and stare and show no fear. If it is bosscat - an alpha animal- who is fighting then it will pass over eventually and he will find another cat to bully.

BlueBelle Fri 02-Nov-18 18:57:26

I haven’t got a lawn but I ve had it in the middle of my pebble path no scratching to cover it over but hey ho I do bang on the window if I see them so I m probable a mad woman too
I bought one of those electronic devices and sent it back with a photo of the neighbourhood cat doing its business at the foot of the device ??I got my money back
I don’t dislike cars though just wish they wore nappies

SueDonim Fri 02-Nov-18 18:56:13

Have you tried Feliway for cats? It has a calming effect and that may reduce tension amongst local cats. If your cat doesn't feel he has to defend his territory he may stop using your neighbour's garden. It is annoying and upsetting for everyone when pets come into conflict.

www.feliway.com/uk

Buffybee Fri 02-Nov-18 18:48:24

Disgusting, I know BlueBelle the cat doing it in a pot but I've never seen one do it in the middle of a lawn.
The pot, I presume had soil in it, similar to a flower bed.
It's just the "middle of the lawn" that doesn't ring true.
Quite honestly, I don't believe the odd neighbour!
Btw. I'm not a crazy cat lover, I have dogs, but I do remember this from my Mothers cats. They don't like to poop in the open.

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Nov-18 18:42:54

Buffy I appreciate it's supposed to scare him, and obviously it would cost the cat owner nothing because actually the neighbour would have to do the spraying, (which may make relations between neighbours even more difficult ... I personally wouldn't want to have to keep watch to catch someone else's cat in the act) but spraying could easily make a very anxious cat even more so. He isn't doing it to be awkward.

Admittedly the netting costs money but an awful lot less than a vet's bill for a cat injured on the road in my case.

BlueBelle Fri 02-Nov-18 18:31:29

Not the cats that come in my garden Buffybee I always thought they dug and covered but they don’t I m afraid
I even put some bulbs in a pot a few weeks back and the next day right in the middle of the pot was a big old roll

Buffybee Fri 02-Nov-18 18:28:49

Sparkle the water spray is supposed to scare the cat, so that he will learn not to go in that area. It does work and will be a lot cheaper to do.

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Nov-18 18:25:39

I personally wouldn't want my cat sprayed with a water pistol. It would scare her terribly, and as you say jacalpad that he had a sad life before you adopted him, you won't want him frightened or made more nervous. Have a look at the netting on the link I sent you. It is the best thing I have done for my much-loved cat.

Charleygirl5 Fri 02-Nov-18 18:20:24

Would your cat be happy staying indoors? One can be prosecuted if a dog did what your cat did in your neighbour's garden but a cat is a free spirit. You are so unlucky with your choice of neighbour.