Dog and wedding

Your future daughter in law couldn’t be clearer kiki

NO DOG

End of. Not negotiable.
Not even by saying your son is a dog lover.
See!
You are already looking for cracks in their relationship.

Wind your neck in otherwise you’ll be on here in 18 months or so, wondering why you and your dog aren’t welcome to the christening of your dear grandchild‼️

You are thinking of yourself and what you want, not your dog and what is best for him/her. As everyone has said, don’t take the dog to the wedding, kennels or a dog sitter is the answer. It’s the brides special day, not yours

Your dog might enjoy some parts of the wedding but how will he like lots of people, noise, children possibly pulling him about, and a very long day when he probably would want his basket and some peace. It doesn't soud ideal for him, and quite hoesntly you could start a major family row if you try to insist, and alienate your future daughter in law for ever. Why not find a willing neighbour, or dog sitter, and let him have some time with them to get him used to it?

I would be horrified to turn up at any wedding to find a dog there. I am a dog owner and there is a time and place for a dog and a wedding is not one of those. Kennels for the day is the answer.

So many opinions on this question.unless I’ve missed something everyone saying No don’t do it, there’s your answer. Repeated over n over again, I hope your son and daughter in law have a wonderful day, and enjoy their wedding day, and I sincerely hope you have a great day too but leave your dog at home being properly looked after

Good decision regarding your dog. I’m sure you’ll find lots of alternatives that you can use. Where you know your dog will be happy and you can go and enjoy your sons wedding. Fingers crossed you find somewhere that suits you.

OP - the spirited responses were because the whole idea is beyond credence!

There’s no way you should take the dog. I am a dog-lover, and also look after friends’ dogs on these sort of occasions. It seems to me that it is not that you don’t want to leave your dog elsewhere, but that you want him with you. He may be part of the family, but I suspect there are some children who will also not be invited.

Your future DIL will be absolutely furious and might never have anything to do with you again. Not everyone likes dogs and many people don't have children to their big day. Save yourself a lot of grief and put the dog in a good kennels it is not your day.

I totally understand why you would want your dog at the wedding as my daughter married her fiancé in October & it was a bit difficult for us too as dog lovers

This is the attitude I don’t understand. That somehow not watching a dog at your wedding means you are not a dog lover. So entitled. You can put your dog in kennels and still be a dog lover.

Crazygran

OMG !!!!
Why would anyone put a dog before their child ?????

Kiki has complained in the past about how selfish her children are. Either the Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, or selfish means “doesn’t kowtow to me”. Either way, it’s clear she doesn’t like them very much.

It is very difficult for you to be torn between your children, the human ones and the dog one.

What? Yikes

jinty44 has summed this up nicely. Power struggle at its most basic. I’m getting a hint of “mil wants son to choose her side over brides”

I have 2 very well behaved dogs, but I wouldn’t dream of taking either of them to a wedding, unless they were invited!!!
Who wants a dog with them on such an occasion? Not me.

The problem with asking opinions is that they frequently disagree with your own. I loved my dog, but she went into kennels or to a neighbour’s for all the weddings I attended except my daughter’s, when she stayed at home.
Dearly loved family member though she was, she wouldn’t have understood the significance of the occasion, the need not to bark and the fact that not everyone would want her there.
Don’t risk starting a feud that could affect the rest of your relationship with your son and his wife. Be prepared in advance for the possibility that your dog won’t be welcome to meet any future grandchildren.
If you can get over this, I hope you enjoy the wedding. They will appreciate you honouring their request.

You are being completely unreasonable in wanting your dogs to go. Not everyone like or loves dogs and your son is making a future with someone who doesn't like dogs that much so you are just going to have to get use to it or makes a choice between son or dogs.

We have a dog - and we would not take her to a wedding. Perhaps ask someone (a neighbour or friend) if they can check on your dog at home, let him out for what he needs to do etc, or let him stay with them for the day? It would be likely to cause a lot of upset wouldn't it, if you took your dog with you, under the circumstances?

No sane person wants to put their dog through this .
No sane person wants a dog at a wedding
Got the message ?

Let's stop blaming the bride for not wanting a dog. The son agreed to this policy as well.
Maybe it was initiated by the son. We do not know.

So it is not only the bride, the groom and bride do not want dogs at the wedding.

Sorry kiki2, it’s all been said.

candelle that is indeed a BAD idea as the daughter in law has expressly said I don’t want your dog at my wedding and then she goes round to a lunch invite with her mother in law and sees a beautiful wedding photo complete with dog on the wall or mantle shelf If that was me I would be SO angry I d probably walk out with the photo going in the bin on my way out and not come back, that in my opinion a big no no no

I m not at all convinced Kiki has got this at all and will still try and make trouble with this dratted dog which is obviously more important than the son and daughter in law and their feelings

It’s their wedding and their choice and if you want to maintain a good relationship with your son and future daughter in law, please make alternative arrangements for the dog on their wedding day.

If it isn’t a local wedding, where were you planning to put the dog overnight? Presuming you’re staying. At the very least, it would need to be left somewhere during hours of the reception.

You may be a dog lover, but those who are the principals in the wedding, aren’t. You need to accede to their wishes.

Why on earth would you think it acceptable to force them to have your dogs at their wedding !

Get a dog sitter, not that hard surely. I wouldn't want a dog at my wedding either.

grannygranby usually it's two people joining together in holy matrimony until death do them part.
Your family may do things differently, though, and I am intrigued.
Gransnet love fuelling anti-dog comments Untrue
dogs like to sleep a lot and are happy in bed in car
No! Do not leave a dog in a car on a warm day, they can overheat and die.

Anyway I think kiki's got the message now!

I'm with the bride. NO DOGS means no dogs! Whatever owners say they always jump up. Imagine marking her beautiful dress.

Sorry kiki but as a dog lover and one who usually shouts fir their rights then, if you are for real, you need to ‘get a life’ and some friends who can have your pet for a day or two.

There should be five asterisks.