Dog and wedding

We are not allowed to mention on Gransnet a certain five letter word when an opening post gets the kind of response this one has. If we were I'd be tempted to say "Top ***ing!"??

The point of a wedding is that two families publicly bond

No, two people publicly bond. It's nice when whole families can be involved in the celebrations but they are not part of the bonding commitment. The word public is important here: I think anyone can attend the actual marriage ceremony, but only invited guests can go to what used to be called the wedding breakfast, nowadays reception.

Congratulations on your son's wedding!

The dog can't go because he's not welcome. Is it unreasonable to insist on bringing it anyway? Yes!

It's their wedding and their rules. You need to respect their wishes. Find a good kennel and book in advance. The dog will be fine.

I know we treat our pets likes babys but I think you are going slightly to far with this . I don't wish to upset you anyway but this is a wedding not a get to together in the back garden . They have made there wishes clear and you need to abide by them .

I cant even imagine why anyone would take a dog to a wedding anway!!

Many people have dog or two but I've never seen them at weddings. They all adore their pets but a wedding is not the place to bring your pets. People will be in their finery, they won't want an animal around. It's bad manners. Kennels are fine, they are used to caring for dogs when their owners have to go to an important event. The Bride and Groom are the important people that day, a wedding costs a lot of money, I can't imagine any bride allowing a dog in the photographs. Unless it is a casual wedding and it's the couples' dog.

I just reread your post. You are considering sneaking the dog along and bringing it out for photos? If you are willing to give up any future relationship with your son and his family, go ahead.

My first thought upon reading this post is that it must be a joke.

Let me preface this by saying I am crazy dog lover. Have two that we adore and spoil like mad. I would NEVER, EVER think it was appropriate to bring a dog to a wedding and expect them to be treated like a "member of the family".

I'm sorry but you sound daft.

As with most others, I think you are being unreasonable. Not everyone loves dogs, some people are allergic to them. A wedding is not the place for a dog.

A dog like yours can be a family member. However, nit everyone in a family likes or enjoys the same things. You have to accept the no dog wish. I had dogs and would never use kennels. I did though use one of the organisations that arrange for your dog to go and live with someone in their home. We had photos of what the dog was up to at times. The hosts are usually folk who love dogs but for some reason can't have one full time. More expensive than kennels but worth it. Hope you find a solution without any falling out.

Don't insist on taking your dog - can you not get a local sitter to where the wedding is? That way you can still take the dog with you but know he is being well cared for? There are dog sitters who look after your dog in their home, perhaps worth a search on the internet to see if one if available?

I'm a dog lover but wouldn't expect to take my dog to a wedding he's you are being unreasonable or is this just a wind up

Every now and again posts come up that make me wonder whether they are real or fake, This is one such post.

Surely this is a wind up?

I have a lovely dog and know that dogs become part of the family. However, I don't feel that your son or soon to be daughter in law are being mean or in anyway unreasonable. Their day; their preferences; their rules. Plenty of people don't even allow children to their weddings.
Good luck finding a dog minder; there are plenty of good ones out there. If you join your local area Facebook page and ask for recommendations, it would be a good starting point. I then suggest a trial run so your dog gets used to the minder.

I can’t believe you’re even asking this question.... your son and future daughter in laws day. Put the dog in kennels... leave with a dog sitter..... get a friendly neighbour to look in on him and feed if necessary. Do any of these . Do NOT take the dog to the wedding.. if you do ,
.... you will h
heap a load of pain on your family and it WILL be your fault!

Sorry, I am a dog lover and used to have two dogs who were every bit a part of our family but there is no way that I would have taken them to any wedding I attended, just the same as when my son and DIL got married earlier this year, both my sister and DIL 's auntie had dogs who are very much loved and part of their family but neither of them would have dreamt of having their dogs at the wedding

You are making the case for everyone who dislikes dogs, sorry bad or silly dog owners.

I feel you are being unreasonable. They are your dogs and not everybody is as keen on them as you are Put them in kennels. By insisting you are causing problems.

@ kiki - hurrah!

Thanks again to those nice people out there , it has helped me realise that I can’t take the dog , thank you

It took getting on for 200 posts though!

Having once attended a local church wedding which was to be followed by a blessing of the brides parents marriage.
All in all a much longer time in the church.
The bride had permission for two of her elderly relatives to bring their two dogs. You never heard a sound from the dogs. Couldn't say the same for a couple of two year old children where at one stage the parents needed to take them out of the service.
I believe you need a well trained animal to be able to cope
with situations that involve a gathering of people where there may be noise of some form or another.

I have 4 dogs I love dearly however I would never take them to a Wedding specifically someone else’s Wedding who has said NO dog . Kennels , dog sitter , kennels near the event & dog friendly hotel or don’t go .

The initial post was fair enough but then to say should you take the dog regardless for a few photos ! They aren’t your photos , it’s not your Wedding day , bit bizarre .

If you don’t be careful your setting yourself up for whole load of future issues and resentment with your son and DIL and any children they may have .

There is no full story that justifies your thinking.

Definitely do not take your dog. You are being very unreasonable to even ask.
My three dogs are very important to me but I would never dream of taking them to a wedding or any other special occasion.
Your son and DiL are quite right to say no.
You need some perspective.

'Obviously , whoever holds him would make sure he doesn’t jump up the bride in her beautiful dress' -doesn't this say it all. He's obviously a dog that jumps up on people (or else you wouldn't have mentioned this) which I cannot abide, even as a dog lover and dog owner. If he had been trained properly in the first place he wouldn't be doing this. and Whilst you might tolerate such things many people don't - what else does he do that she doesn't like? It's her day her choice!