Dog and wedding

I totally agree. Their wedding. Their choices. No dogs allowed, of course not.

Try the Cinnamon Trust, they cater for things like this. They also have a website www.cinnamon.org.uk Good luck and hope you manage to get to the wedding, but I do know what it's like, as we try to take our dog everywhere with us, if we can. x

No nastiness or anger here.

Just flabbergasted that someone would want to wreck her future DIL's wedding day and risk their future relationship for the sake of a dog, however much loved the animal is.

This reminds me of office Christmas parties - invite partners or not. I always preferred not because I would have to spend time looking after my OH who wouldn't have known anyone, rather than enjoy myself with my workmates.

In all seriousness I would be worried about my dogs which would take my mind off the wedding. So, don't do it.

That was let someone love your dog

When my daughter married we had a dog who was very nervous and had health issues . I looked up dog minders , these are people who will either dog sit your dog at home or have them in their home . They do it because they love dogs . Go for this option rather than kennels but. It’s no place for a dog . Let someone lose over your dog for a few days . The dog will be happy lots of walkies . And the wedding will be happy

kiki2
I know you are probably feeling a bit sore by now. I'm sorry if you are, but please don't take your dear dog to the wedding, even for a short visit.

Aside from the fact that you have been asked not to, it will likely cause all manner of problems in the future.

I do hope you find a kind and loving pet-sitter and that you all have a fabulous day.

Yes theoddbird I have now got the hint thank you
When I posted this , I didn’t realise it would unleash such passion
I would like to thank the people who have advised me nicely and have kept a neutral tone and if you are one of those , you will recognise yourselves so thanks again.
I would also like to say though that I am quite shocked by the tone of some of the responses which occasionally borders on the vitriolic
Quite a few adjectives have been used by some of you to judge me when in fact you don’t know me
You should really be more magnanimous and you should NEVER judge until you know the full story
I am very disappointed that so many of you are like that on gransnet , it is very sad and I feel sorry for you as you clearly have plenty of nastiness and anger within you
Thanks again to those nice people out there , it has helped me realise that I can’t take the dog , thank you

My dog is a much loved family member. I put her in kennels for 2 nights when my daughter got married. It’s all too much for them.
Your dog will be in strange surroundings if taken to wedding anyway. So why not pop the dog into nice away from home kennels. People will dig sit in your home too. Good luck I wouldn’t take the dog.

I am a dog lover & I get that you don't want to leave your dog behind or put it in kennels but it is their day not yours and the bride and groom should be the focus of the wedding after all. Taking your dog along because you want a couple of photos is unrealistic when it's not welcome in the first place.Let's face it, in this instance the photos aren't likely to be happy ones to cherish are they? I understand the way you feel I can't bear to be parted from my dog and will be in a similar situation to yourself should either of my children get married and have christening parties etc, he will just have to go to kennels or a dog walker/sitter as I don't have anyone else I trust to leave him with.If you've got some time before the wedding it might be worth trying him at a kennels/dogsitter etc beforehand to see how he gets along then if you do decide to go ahead you'll be more relaxed at the wedding because you'll know that he's ok and safe.

Sorry you've had some flak - not necessary. I agree with the main thrust of comments, though. Absolutely do not take - or even think of taking - your dog to the wedding. The day belongs to the bride and groom and you must respect their wishes. You have plenty of time to find a reliable dog-sitter - even one near where the wedding will take place. But there should not be a whiff of canine anywhere near the church or reception. I speak as someone who has mourned my little dog for seven years, I know how important they are.

The whole things seems mean anyway.... what do you mean by that! So does it mean that your son n daughter in law shouldn’t have the wedding that they want, it’s not all about you and your dog you know, sometimes if you find you are not getting on with certain members of your family, it’s not always the others who are at fault,

7 pages and very little response from the OP - it’s a very strange thread

This is a wind up isn’t it? I cannot believe you are being serious.

Once again posters not being nice, I am really fed up with these people. I have had many dogs in my life, I am not different to other people (what is it about dog owners) very insulting. I would never take any of my dogs anywhere they were not wanted and even kept my dogs away from a wedding at home. Made sure they were regularly seen to be comfortable. Sorry but I think you are starting off badly with a future daughter in law.

Are you on glue? Who wants a dog at their wedding, and how cruel to leave it in a car all day.
It's also their wedding, so YABU on so many levels.

I often think people are unreasonable not allowing children at weddings who after all are actually part of the family but sorry in this case I agree with the bride. A wedding is not a place for a dog. You may love dogs but many people don't. And I don't think it's fair to the dog either. Can't you put the dog in kennels somewhere near you will be staying? . I really think you should put the happiness of your son and daughter in law before that of your dog.

Fairly certain this post is a wind up. Nobody surely can be this insensitive.

Kiki2 I have now read all the posts...took me ages... Every single one says don't take the dog. Hope you have got the hint now that it would ruin the wedding and your relationship with son and future daughter in law.

Craicon you don’t have to read my posts if you find them controversial ! Stop being nasty

Kiki2. Not sure if this post is a wind up but if not YOU are being very selfish indeed. I sincerely hope you don’t take your dog! You’ll be on a hiding to nothing if you do. Your son will be ashamed of you and your new DIL will despise you. Is that what you really want. I adore my dog but I’m afraid she’ll never be more to me than my children. I have a fantastic lady who I trust completely to look after my dog on occasions like this. In fact she gets thoroughly spoilt when she’s with her! Grow up and stop being so selfish. It’s not your day it’s your son and DIL’S!

I think many people have answered your question ... personally I think taking a dog to a wedding is the height of rudeness, insensitivity and quite frankly irresponsible. Kids running around, people enjoying themselves, clean clothes... why would you want a dog around!! That doesn’t even cover any allergies. No no no ... awful suggestion, please don’t ruin the day with thinking taking the dog is in any way acceptable

I adore dogs but I wouldn't expect to be able to take them to a wedding. If you are in my area (Suffolk) I will have him for the day (as long as my dogs accept him). If not then I would ask a trusted neighbour or friend to sit with him, or ask people in your area for recommendations for pet sitters.

Noooo leave the dog in kennels. Please don't spoil their day. Don't even mention it again as it will add to their stress. It's not your wedding

What is it with people and their dogs?
My daughter is obsessed with her dog - which is very big and drools a lot. She is devastated and actually cried when my sister told her she couldn’t take the dog to a family gathering. (15 people in a small house, including one with pet allergies).
Please be realistic- use a dog sitter or a kennels. Other people don’t have to love your dog in the way that you do.
Some people don’t like dogs. Some people are frightened of them or allergic to them. Please be considerate of others.