Dog and wedding

Kikki2. I think from so many responses ( which I have to agree with) its been made clear what people think. Hope this has given you pause for thought and maybe you can look into the practical advice which some have given.
You do risk a family fallout and I hope you find something you are comfortable with for your dog and that you enjoy the wedding.

Like some other posters, I’m beginning to think this is a wind-up!

Love me love my dog does not count at weddings. It's like when they say "no children" and you take your toddler because it was either that, or you don't go to the wedding; or when it says just your name and you take a friend along, to have company. If you want the dog in photos, photoshop him in later. Why are you willing to risk a scene on a day which is a special one for your son, and his beloved, and not yours? Please, be reasonable.

YAB TOTALLY U

Where to start?

Your son has made it very clear that your dog is not to be at the wedding, so why are you even contemplating it? This has nothing to do with being a dog lover, has it? If you loved your dog you wouldn't inflict a wedding (long journey and a noisy day enclosed with unpredictable strangers) on him.

It seems to me that this is about power.

Your son and fiancee don't want your dog at their wedding. You don't like being told their wishes trump yours, so you're considering sneaking him in, 'just for photos' - or as I see it, for permanent proof that you got your own way.

*obviously I know that he can’t come to the reception* And where would your dog be during the reception then? In the car for hours, alone? Or would you then be deciding to sneak him in after the meal, just as you did to the photos, because it's cruel to leave him out there? You being such a dog-lover?

"The whole thing feels mean anyway"
And there it is. Your reaction to being told that you are not the most important person at their wedding.

"Would welcome advice , thank you"
Clearly not.

I agree with 'don't take your dog. It is Their special day .

Is this a joke post.if it’s serious then I’m flabbergasted . I’m a real animal lover but there’s no way on this earth I’d want to take a dog to a wedding. I would imagine the bride is shocked hearing this, and of course she wouldn’t want it there, and you would would like it in photos, whose wedding is this, it’s not yours, and you asking if you can just bring him along anyway for some photos,yes all our pets are part of the family if it was your wedding then then you obviously do as you like, but yes I think you are being unreasonable

It is very difficult for you to be torn between your children, the human ones and the dog one.

Their wedding, their choice. I am really unsure why your dog should be in the photos... For goodness sake do not even think about taking your dog. There are pet sitting agencies...use one. There will be major upsets if you go against their wishes and it will ruin their day.

Yes you arebeing unreasonable.
I would ban children let alone dogs from weddings
Put the dog in kennels.

This has got to be a wind up! Got some response thou'.

At a recent family wedding the much loved family dog's photo was set in a prominent place on the head table, so was included in photos that way. Said dog stayed happily at home but since that will not be possible at this event so why not arrange kennels for the day somewhere very local?

I can’t quite believe this. I wouldn’t have a dog at a wedding under any circumstance! Put your son and future daughter in law first and wake up. Put it in kennels and enjoy the wedding. It’s a dog not a human being.

Baggs, where does “what on earth is it with dog owners” come from?

I adore my dogs, but I wouldn’t consider taking them to a wedding. Others here have said the same.

To the OP, no need to put them in Kennels, use a pet sitter.

YABVU! If you had a guide dog, that would be another matter. You sound very eccentric! If you persist with this obsession, you will not be welcome in your son's home.

Well, I've heard it all now!
Most children are not allowed at weddings.
I have 3 dogs and love them all dearly but would never dream of taking them so someone's house never mind a wedding.
Kennels do day and half day care. They don't have to stay overnight.

And really,your dogs not going to care one way or another if hes in any photos or not,is he?

I admire your son for being honest with you. It can’t have been easy for him to have this discussion.
I agree with most of what others have said. You are putting your own feelings before those of your future daughter in law, not a great start to this relationship.
What would you do if you were hospitalised or had another emergency? Who would take the dog?
I hope you take heed of the advice from Gransnetters and draw a line under the matter now.

You are being a silly lady . It’s not up to you who comes to the wedding. I would hate to be your daughter in law with you banging on about your dog, I would know I did not mater at all . It’s all about a photo for you not anyone else, Photo shop the dog on to a picture.. Put your energy into your sons life by welcoming his bride. Otherwise you will find yourself not invited to see them or future grandchildren because you put your fear of leaving your dog before them. If the dog could talk he would say a wedding was not the right environment for him he would rather go for a walk with a dog sitter. Alternatively perhaps you should stay at home with your dog !

Sorry but I agree with everyone whilst I can understand you regard your dog as part of the family it would be wrong to take a dog to a wedding. Sometimes we have to put others wishes before our own.

Ask your usual vet if theres anyone or any kennels they can recommend to you?or maybe ( if you know them well) one of their own nurses may help if its just for a day or overnight? Some veterinary students may offer this service to boost their student finances?Or older people who love animals & want to boost their earnings or a small pet sitting buisness?I found a lovely couple who look after my cat when im away on a card advertising in my usual vets practice on notice board.Reasonable rates and theyve been taking care of him 10 yrs now,and i 'sussed them out' first with the vet.im sure theres the same thing maybe for looking after dogs too?you need to bother to look.

Kiki, I can't believe you are serious with this question. It' your son's wedding. It's not about who is or isn't a dog lover, it's your son and his bride's wedding. A very special event for humans not dogs. You have been told quite specifically not to bring the dog. What is there that you don't understand about that request? It's not your day and not about you and your dog.

You are being deeply disrespectful of your son and his bride and are in grave danger of ending up with an estranged son and DIL but a terrific relationship with your dog. Your choice.

You are being totally Unreasonable!!! I love and have two dogs but I wouldn’t dream of placing anyone let alone a future dil in a situation that she felt uncomfortable with - I really can’t believe that you are seriously thinking of sneaking the dog into their wedding day so he can be in a couple of photos - this is unrealistic and deranged thinking - you will lose your son instantly - get a dog sitter and if you don’t know one already and you never use kennels this is perhaps a wake up call to yourself that you are over reliant on your dog - not healthy.

OMG !!!!
Why would anyone put a dog before their child ?????

At first I thought this was a wind up post, but no the OP is obviously just blinkered selfish and oblivious to the feelings of others. The only permissible dogs at weddings should be guide dogs who are trained to behave well.