Dog and wedding

Do not take your dog to the wedding.
If you dont want to put into kennels then use Trusted House Sitters or House Sit Match where people come to your home and look after your pets there.
They are well respected and even my police officer friends use them si they must be good.

I think it's unreasonable to take a dog to a wedding unless it's either a guide dog or hearing dog which my cousin has got. And just sits quietly. Not everybody likes dogs.. if it's problem don't go to the wedding.

Lol nooo of course you can't take the dog to the wedding or reception! I've never seen a dog at any such event. These days you're lucky if you can even take children

I have a very unfortunate allergy to dogs...along with many, many other things, that affect my lungs. I would be so very, upset, that the one place I thought I could go to and enjoy with my family, could end up with an embarrassing and uncomfortable episode for me.
Apart from anything, it is “their” wedding day, we have had ours (possibly), some respect for them now will go a long way for the rest of your life, don’t rock that particular boat!

I walked away, but had to come back and reply
Kiki, you are being unreasonable
Your priority is surely for your Son and his future wife
I am a dog lover / dog sitter, but find your idea incredulous.

Can you befriend another family locally with a similar type of friendly dog as yours - have a partnership thing going, you help them/they help you - you bothe get great benefit from it and the dogs are happy for some company and a change of scenery.

Some couples like to have THEIR OWN DOG at their OWN wedding- but ive never heard of other guests taking their dog along as though its 'one of the family',unless you need an assistance dog then theres no reason for it.Baggs was just being honest& blunt,you seem a bit 'sensitive' kiki2 if anyone criticises your dog? Isnt your son more important to you? I love my cat but wouldnt want to take him along to family gatheringsFind the dog a dog sitter-or go look around a few local kennels,see if theres any you might agree to,im sure theres some that treat them like a four star hotel for pets these days?or look around locally,theres people who look after pets in the dogs own homes,or just pay daily visits/ walks etc,or look after them in their own homes,etc etc.lots of choice.or surely theres a friend or neighbour who could help whom your dog probably already knows?i feel youre making a big issue of this as your future DIL is not a dog lover.she doesnt have to be.she does love YOUR SON though,and thats the main thing,isnt it?

Yes, most of us are fond of pets, but realise that animals are animals that provide company and affection for their owners, but should be respected as the beings they are.

What this boils down to, is that very few dogs are comfortable at large gatherings, so that is one very good reason for not taking a dog to a wedding.

Another, even better one, is that you have been asked not to bring the dog. Unless you want to start a row with your DIL, obviously you cannot take the dog, and to be quite honest you are the one being unreasonable here.

You say you could prevent the dog jumping up on the bride's beautiful dress - are we talking about taking a dog to church? The only dogs I have ever seen in church were guide dogs, unless we are talking about a St. Hubert's Mass where hunting dogs are obviously brought on that one occasion to mass.

Presumably, you have time to either find a neighbour who can and will look after the dog for the day, or find a kennel.

If your son and daughter-in-law are intending to have a family, you may as well face the fact that the dog won't be welcome at the christenings or probably around the children.

Your daughter-in-law has just as much right not to like dogs, as you have to be fond of them.

Have you heard of Borrowmydoggy.com? There are doglovers on that who walk dogs for others simply for enjoyment of their company, also some who can have them over holiday periods. I walked a lovely dog for months who went to another family for holiday stays, as I couldn't manage to have him in my flat.
Never take your dog anywhere where dogs are not welcome for whatever reason. Many people have health or anxiety problems with dogs, also unfamiliar busy situations, such as weddings, are totally confusing and anxiety creating for the animal, however much you personally would like them there.

Unless it's a guide dog, why on earth would anyone take a dog to a wedding? I'm quite fond of my cat but I don't expect to take her to social events. If you ask around or even just google, I'm sure you could find a lovely, caring kennel. It's on a day or so - please don't let this become more than a trivial issue.

Up to them its their wedding. Deal with it and organize kennels.

I agree with Baggs and Maw. A dog should not go to the wedding if not invited. It is what it is. A Dog not a human being.
I am a dog lover but do not have one anymore. Our dogs were truly loved but as dogs and were not humanized.
Have you thought of other guests? Maybe some maybe allergic to animal dander.
Kennels are a good solution. We used them often for our lab who liked his little holiday there.

Do not bring your dog to the wedding! I've never heard anything so ridiculous. Your reputation must go before you if they've had to tell you this. Wise up. Dogs do not need to be in photos. Sheesh I've heard everything now.

Hi kiki2. We to are dog lovers and very rarely go away without them. If we do want to go to London for the weekend or for a big family occasion, we have a local teenage girl come and sit with them. She is the daughter of neighbours and the dogs love the fuss they get from her. I hope it all works out for you.

It is her day and that of your son.
I know you love you dog as a family member but you will need to defer to their wishes.
Can you find dog friendly accommodation nearby so you can have your fur baby close by and, if not kennels, a dog day care might also be the answer.
Or.....there are companies who have retired police and military who will house sit your home and dog.
I hope all can be resolved.

I'm do perform wedding ceremonies and I've yet to see a dog at a wedding. But I have seen a few you tube videos so it does It's only when the couple can't bear to leave their "furbaby" somewhere else for the day.

A Wedding is no place for a dog unless it is the Bride and Groom's wish.

In answer to your Q, Kiki, aibu - absolutely, you are being unreasonable. Sorry, but you did ask.

Dog at a wedding, what a jape. Kiki’s Posts are always controversial. I wonder whether she wants the attention of the newspapers?

You are being totally unreasonable.

Regardless of who loves dogs and who doesn’t the bottom line is that your prospective DIL has said an emphatic NO to dogs. It’s their wedding, not yours so respect their wishes. Would you really want an angry and uptight bride and groom on the day (and for, potentially, many years afterwards)? Instead of trying to wangle a way to sneak the dog in, use your time and energy to find a suitable sitter/kennel. Your dog won’t hold it against you, but your son might!

You must respect their decision. Don’t do it.
At our son & DIL’s wedding 2 guests turned up with uninvited children!! Not on!! Their day their rules.
My friend’s dog was a ring bearer at her wedding but that was different.
Anyway apart from guide dogs would your dog be allowed at the venue?

Is this a genuine post? I’ve had dogs my entire life and have always considered them part of the family but never in a months of Sunday’s would I ever take one to a wedding. It’s your son and dil wedding not your dogs. Bringing him out for the odd photo makes it sound like you want the dog to be the centre of attention

How can you even think of taking the dog?
You must respect the bride's wishes. You may think your dog is part of the family but others don't!
You could always take photos of the dog with your son, in his wedding attire before the day - as the bride doesn't like dogs, there is no way that she would want photos with the dog.
There may well be people in your area that would be happy to dog sit either in your house or their own for a few days if you don't want to use kennels. Ask around other doggy friends for recommendations.

Kiki2,
I totally understand why you would want your dog at the wedding as my daughter married her fiancé in October & it was a bit difficult for us too as dog lovers. My sister in law dog sat, as it was a very small wedding with immediate family only. I missed our dogs presence but knew he was being liked after at home. Had I been told quite clearly that he was not allowed there it wouldn’t have been a problem for us a we would have respected the bride and groom’s wishes- as it was -my husband chose not to bring him along himself. Just go along with whatever the bride and groom request as it is after all, their special day. Good luck.

I had my lovely retriever at my wedding .. but of course, it was my choice and my favourite photograph of all included her .. BUT .. we had arranged for her favourite family friend to have her for our honeymoon and she had moved house before our wedding so she was fully settled. I will never forget her delight at seeing me walk down the aisle ... of course we had to stop and greet her! However, respect for the wishes of your new family member on her wedding day would be the very best gift you could bring, so my advice is to plan ahead and pay for a dog sitter for the day. I do hope you all have a fabulous day.