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Dog and wedding

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kiki2 Wed 20-Nov-19 12:43:39

My son is getting married next year and has just told me that his future wife will not have our dog anywhere near her ´ on the day
We are dog-lovers and so is my son but she isn’t
I am quite upset about this as we have nobody who could look after our dog and the wedding won’t be local so it won’t be a question of just leaving at home
We don’t want to put him in kennels either , obviously I know that he can’t come to the reception but all I was hoping for was that he could be in a couple of photos , he is in my opinion a member of the family .
So , am I being silly for thinking this ; can I just go ahead anyway and bring him out for the odd photo ?
Obviously , whoever holds him would make sure he doesn’t jump up the bride in her beautiful dress.
What do you think ? What would you do ?
I don’t want a row with my son or future Dil but don’t want to leave my dog behind .
The whole thing feels mean anyway
Would welcome advice , thank you

Woolleycat Thu 30-Jan-20 08:55:19

My dog went to my daughters wedding..... there was no question of her not going as she is a family member. Your son is being thoughtless, doesn’t bode well for the future with you new DIL

Woolleycat Thu 30-Jan-20 07:55:42

My dog went to my daughter’s wedding! No question of leaving her out- she’s a family member. Your son is being thoughtless.

arcadia03 Wed 01-Jan-20 10:06:02

I can understand that you may not want to leave your dog in kennels. Our last rescue dog, who would have certainly feared kennels, as an abandonment, had to be left in the car with frequent walks at my youngest son's wedding. When my eldest son was married in a dog friendly hotel, I was able to leave our dog in our hotel room. It all worked out, but I think you need to respect the wedding ceremony.

sodapop Fri 29-Nov-19 16:03:38

The OP is not taking the dog - end of.

Quercus Fri 29-Nov-19 13:51:07

You are invited to the wedding. The dog is not. Do not be ridiculous. It is a dog not a person and has no place in wedding celebrations or photos. I realise we are a nation of dog lovers but this is one of the most absurd examples I have yet encountered.

EthelJ Fri 29-Nov-19 13:25:09

If I am logged in I always get OP posts in green too. It makes it much easier to see if they have responded to posts. I use an android phone.

AGAA4 Thu 28-Nov-19 16:07:07

Oh dear! weddings can cause such upset. I have known people whose children haven't been on the invitation, which has made things awkward. I just step back and let the couple have whoever they want (or don't want) at their wedding. Important day for them so we should try to make it stress free.
I understand you love your dog and he is one of the family but you should respect their wishes

NotSpaghetti Wed 27-Nov-19 00:04:33

Wish I had it too....

Summerlove Tue 26-Nov-19 22:34:33

I miss the feature desperately.

I very definitely used to have it bluebelle

SirChenjin Tue 26-Nov-19 17:34:45

We must have some kind of user privilege Tedber!

SirChenjin Tue 26-Nov-19 17:34:00

I’ve no idea either Bluebelle but as you can see from my screenshot it’s very definitely there! I’ll post something under ‘Site Stuff’ to see what HQ have to say

Tedber Tue 26-Nov-19 17:18:48

Just for record I’ve got it too sirchenjin- on my iPhone but not on desktop. ALL OP posts in green and mine in pink So no you aren’t losing the plot ?

dizzyblonde Tue 26-Nov-19 15:00:25

I only get the original post in green and mine in purple, the OPs subsequent posts are identical to everyone else. Have tried every which way to get it to change to the format I use on MN but to no avail. I use safari on iPhone and iPad.

BlueBelle Tue 26-Nov-19 13:40:40

Summerlove the original post is in green my own posts in pink everything else in white
I m on mobile on an iPad but I often change to desktop when I want to remove games threads and then back to mobile again and it makes no difference I ve never lost it stayed the same
I don’t see subsequent original posters posts in a colour, we have indeed asked HQ for that but it’s never been allowed so no idea how you’ve got that sirchenjin

moggie57 Tue 26-Nov-19 13:23:37

a dog sitter for the day is a good option...its their wedding....no dogs....sorry ..

SirChenjin Tue 26-Nov-19 08:46:17

Like this

NotSpaghetti Tue 26-Nov-19 08:46:09

Well that would be great. Why can’t we ALL have that feature- so useful!

SirChenjin Tue 26-Nov-19 08:44:33

Nope - very definitely not, I can see the OPs subsequent posts in green as I scroll through the entire thread smile

NotSpaghetti Tue 26-Nov-19 08:33:11

SirChenjin - the only posts by OP that are green on my screen (Android phone or iPad) are the actual original post and the same post repeated at the top of each “page”. All the other ones by the OP are indistinguishable from other people.
Maybe you are looking at the top of the page?

Leavesden Mon 25-Nov-19 21:55:27

Obviously you love your dog, but that doesn’t mean other people have to like him, a lot of people aren’t comfortable around dogs and it is the bride and grooms day and you should accept what they want and want to make the occasion special and happy for them. A dog shouldn’t be at a wedding, make other arrangements for it.

Tedber Sun 24-Nov-19 00:10:32

Love of animals URMSTONGRAN Bahaha...probably most appalled by the prospect of bringing dogs to a wedding lol. That and the fact that the thread is so long, nobody has picked up on the fact the OP has decided against it !!!

I think it was MAW who suggested somewhere, when threads have run their course they should be 'closed' and I agree. This one could run and run for years ha ha ha

Urmstongran Sat 23-Nov-19 10:11:28

Must be the British and their love of animals that has generated over 300 replies Maw and BlueBelle!
??

MawB Sat 23-Nov-19 09:27:39

? keep on runnin’ ?

SirChenjin Sat 23-Nov-19 09:27:34

How odd Summerlove - I definitely see the OPs posts in green and mine appear as pink. I can see them right now! Thanks for the heads up about the desktop site smile

BlueBelle Sat 23-Nov-19 08:56:20

Are we really still discussing this ???