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Advice re sex of intended new puppy

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Jane43 Sun 08-Nov-20 12:56:09

What a beautiful picture Ellianne.

grandtanteJE65 Sun 08-Nov-20 12:50:34

Generally speaking dogs and cats will more easily accept an animal of the opposite sex, but then, of course, you will have the problem of what to do when your bitch is in season.

If you prefer male dogs. I think you should get one. Your son's dog will probably be prepared to accept a puppy, irrespective of its sex, so make sure they get to know each other while yours is still young, which may be difficult due to lockdown.

Ellianne Sat 07-Nov-20 14:48:31

Ha ha Oopsminty it's poodles ours dislikes!

Oopsminty Sat 07-Nov-20 14:38:35

It all depends on the dog I think!

We have a female JRX and she hates other lady dogs. Just hates them. But when confronted by boy dogs she gets all coquettish and struts around trying to get attention.

She isn't keen on labradors though. Male or female. We have no idea why. It's quite new behaviour and she hasn't had any run ins but she sees one now and the teeth are bared. We tend to pick her up when we see one approaching

We had a male greyhound and female lurcher and they got on just fine

Good luck with your puppy!

anna7 Sat 07-Nov-20 14:35:32

Thank you for all your comments. My sons dog has been neutered. I have been checking the Kennel Club site and Champdog but with no luck as yet. Hopefully after Christmas more dogs may become available. I am prepared to wait (impatiently)for the right dog. Thanks again for all your good wishes.

Chardy Sat 07-Nov-20 14:31:31

We've always had bitches (and female cars too for that matter). First spaniel we had was a home defender when we were at work, later had to be trusted with 2 physically small kittens and then eventually a baby. She was a springer, lovely bitch, never any problem.
Move on a couple of decades, got a Cavalier KC spaniel (and a DGD) when I retired, 2 months between their ages. Again bitch has always got on well with small children and cats of varying ages (and levels of patience)

sodapop Sat 07-Nov-20 13:26:33

We have two dogs and a bitch ( sorry since last week only one dog and bitch) The bitch was ill treated before we got her and needed a hysterectomy so no sex related problems.
Bitches tend to be more clingy and affectionate and dogs more independent. Not a hard and fast rule though as breeds do vary.
If you are not using your dog for breeding purposes then they should be castrated/spayed.
I really dislike it when dogs start 'humping' and owners find it amusing, we firmly put a stop to this when ours were puppies.
It's the first time we have had a bitch but would not hesitate to rescue another one.
Good luck with your puppy anna7

Ellianne Sat 07-Nov-20 13:24:56

The two boys in perfect harmony.

Casdon Sat 07-Nov-20 13:10:48

Icanhandthemback I agree with you, they are all different personalities - mine goes to daycare, and he gets on great with the majority of dogs, but there are some of both sexes that he just doesn’t warm to at all, he turns his back and ignores them. He is neutered, which I also agree, makes a difference because they are less competitive then.

icanhandthemback Sat 07-Nov-20 13:06:28

To be honest, I think it just depends on the dogs. They are a bit like people, one rule doesn't fit all. Is your son's dog intact? If so, he is more likely to see another intact dog as a challenger for a bitch's attention so that can be difficult. However, if you are planning to castrate a male puppy, it is less of a problem. You can also resolve many behavioural problems with other dogs with good training so I'd be less inclined to worry.

Whitewavemark2 Sat 07-Nov-20 13:01:18

What I will say is that if you bring in a female, it should be guaranteed that the dog will never fight her. If he does than he has issues. If she is a small puppy and gets on his nerves or oversteps the mark he will tell her off as that is the way puppies are socialised by the pack. But he will never challenge her when she matures.

If the bitch challenges the dog he will always show submission, unless of course she is out to kill and then I think he will not tolerate it!

My dog never ever challenges a bitch, if she goes for him he simply skips away.

Alishka Sat 07-Nov-20 12:48:57

"the cat left home after an unfortunate experience" gringringrin

Sorry (for the cat) but that made me laugh! Guess it's the way you tell it!

Iam64 Sat 07-Nov-20 12:48:14

Breeders and dog trainers usually advice if you're bringing puppy in to an existing family dog, get the opposite sex. I've often had two or three dogs, a mix of dogs and bitches. I've also had two bitches with absolutely no problems.

We have one spaniel currently, but are waiting for a puppy to arrive in December. Our existing dog is female, the puppy male.

anna7, best of luck finding a good breeder. The usual go to places are kennel club registered breeders and Champ Dogs. When I was looking, neither of those site had breeders advertising. The lock down rush for puppies has put good breeders off. We were lucky to be recommended to a breeder, all the litter are being sold to. people with a personal recommendation.

lindiann Sat 07-Nov-20 12:41:12

We had a boy JRT X CHI when we were children he would try and hump anything. The cat left home after an unfortunate experience.

anna7 Sat 07-Nov-20 11:23:23

Thanks Gwenisgreat1. We have only ever had one dog at a time before so any observations are really useful.

Gwenisgreat1 Sat 07-Nov-20 11:19:10

Just an observation, my daughter used to have two dogs, a male weimaraner and a female terrier. They got along very well. She respected the older male dog and always let him get the ball!! The male dog was my friend, he'd do anything I asked. The female dog is my DH's friend, she'll do anything for him whereas I'm usually ignored unless food is around.
Sadly the male dog had to be put down he had arthritis.

The female dog now lives with us

I'm no expert, these are just observations

anna7 Sat 07-Nov-20 11:14:32

Thanks Ellianne. That is reassuring. I'm sure if we did get a female we would love it the same but I just prefer boys for some reason. Perhaps because I had sons and not daughters grin I know there's no logical reason.

Ellianne Sat 07-Nov-20 11:09:57

Ooo how lovely anna7, may your days be full of puppy love!
Personally I prefer boys, and find them easier to train and more loyal. We had a boy and girl - same breed - living together and that worked fine, even when the boy dog died and was replaced by another boy puppy of the same breed. The female was always the one in charge.
We did once have trouble with a new boy puppy - different breed - who terrorised both our older dog and our cats, but we didn't have him long. Our DD has recently acquired a boy puppy and he and our dog get along perfectly on walks and in both houses, same breed again.
Hope that helps.

anna7 Sat 07-Nov-20 10:51:05

After much consideration, I am hoping to get a new puppy. Most probably a cocker spaniel if I can find a reputable breeder in these difficult times. We have had a much loved dog previously and currently I spend three days a week looking after my son's young male sprocker spaniel, who is a very lively, although well behaved, young animal. I would really hope that any potential dog I might get would get along with my sons dog as I will still be looking after him regularly. I have done some research and have read that it would be better to get a female as opposite sexes get along better. Does anyone have experience of this? I must admit I would prefer a male, just because our last dog was male and he was such a lovely dog. My sons dog is really good around other dogs so I am hoping he will be a good example for any newcomer.